You are listening to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You with Ashley Parrish and Jessica Pfeiffer.

A weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.

As always, we are joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.

Hey, everyone, and welcome back.

So today we're back for another of what I'm calling Dr. Kins, Feeding the Mouth Essentials.

And this was an episode that we did where we took on the issue of teenagers and entitlement.

I really felt this was an important discussion that is worth revitalizing

because of the importance of parents stepping back and really thinking about what is it we're trying to accomplish

in releasing our teenagers into adulthood and especially the role of serving others rather than only being fully prepared ourselves,

being unselfish, that sort of thing. So today's discussion, I think, is

important to revisit and think about the goals that we are teaching our children of any age,

but our teenagers particularly, about the role that they can and need to play in the lives of

others. Jessica, you and I have had this talk several times

about entitlement and all of our kids, but today we're going to specifically hone in on

teenagers. Good. I'm looking forward to this conversation. This is always a topic that comes up with

parents of teens. You know, the teens feel that they get to have

whatever they want, that they deserve. So, and as you know, certain times of the year, it's worse than

others. Yes, usually around the holidays and birthdays, I feel. Yes, absolutely. And you know,

just to make sure we're talking about the same thing, you know, I think the definition of a teenager or a kid who is entitled, I always say, is one who has come to expect that which they do not deserve.

That's a good one.

Yes. Yes. Yes. Used to be known as spoiled.

That's right. That's right. But now we put a fancy label on it, right?

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