First of all, I want to thank the listener who sent me the link to this article.

Actually, I think they might have mailed me this article.

It's by Alan Rappaport, who is a PhD, and the name of the article is co-narcissism, how

we accommodate to narcissistic parents.

And the reason I want to read this article is, I related so deeply to it.

It allowed me to not only feel more compassion towards me being the way I am, but it also

allowed me to feel more compassion towards my parents, particularly my mom, because I think

one of the things that I struggle with is wishing that things had been different.

And for many years entertaining the idea that she could change.

And after reading this article, it kind of makes me realize that she has a thing that

has a name, and really is almost incapable of being different than she is.

They'll catch me on another day, and I don't believe that.

Anyway, I'm going to read this article, and it's with the permission of Dr. Rappaport.

I want to thank him.

So this article introduces the term co-narcissism to refer to the way that people accommodate

to narcissistic parents.

I use the term narcissism here to refer to people with very low self-esteem, who attempt

to control others' views of them for defensive purposes.

They are interpersonally rigid, easily offend, self-absorbed, blaming, and find it difficult

to empathize with others.

No narcissistic people, as a result of their attempts to get along with their narcissistic

parents, work hard to please others, defer to others' opinions, worry about how others

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