So many people feel like they hear a no, and it feels to them like,

I just shouldn't ever have asked in the first place.

I shouldn't have even wanted it in the first place, but that is just not true.

Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast.

Where are your hosts, Vanessa?

And Sandra Marin.

I'm a sex therapist with 20 years of experience.

And I'm just a regular dude.

We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques

for improving your arms.

So make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips,

practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind

closed bedroom doors, and so much more.

It's the sex education you wish you'd had.

Imagine yourself initiating sex with your partner.

So you just press pause on this podcast.

You go right over to your partner.

You tell them that you want to have sex.

And then imagine that your partner says, no.

So we want to know what comes up for you.

How does that feel?

So initiating sex is one of the most vulnerable things that we do in our relationships.

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