You are listening to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You with Ashley Parrish and Jessica Pfeiffer.

A weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.

As always, we are joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.

Hey, everyone and welcome back on today's episode.

We'll be discussing parenting in reverse.

Dr. Ken, I want to know what you mean by parenting in reverse.

Yeah, this was my thing, wasn't it?

Yes, it was.

Okay.

At the risk of going on a short rant, which you guys hold me back, it occurs to me that

when we're working on planned emancipation, which is the, you know,

the really, when you do it right and so many parents are doing a great job with this, you're really

very, very straightforward that we are stepping out of this. This thing is yours. This area of your life is up to you.

But we don't talk that much about what is the best kind of parenting before that

that really emphasizes and makes plan to emancipation really work.

And that kind of parenting that works best 12 and under is parenting that is consistent.

It teaches, it's parenting that basically teaches, especially young children, self-control and how to interact with others.

And what concerns me is a growing, almost philosophy of parenting that is even among

Christian parents that says that really you want to be free with young children.

Let them be themselves, tell the waiter that my kid should be allowed to run around the

restaurant because he has an impulsivity, blah, blah, blah, that means that those parents will

actually do it backward. They'll start parenting with lots of let their kid do whatever.

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