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a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world as always we are

joined by psychologist and author,

Dr. Ken Wilkes. Hey, everyone and welcome back on today's episode. We're going to be discussing

how to talk to your teenager so they'll listen. I think this is a really applicable episode

for every parent out there. I think this is something that I struggle with

on the daily. I know we get a lot of questions about this via email or on social media about

communicating with our teenagers that they're not listening to us or, you know, or that we've handed

them a list of freedoms. And so now I've let go of that area. And so now I can't say anything about that

area anymore, which might be incorrect. That comes up in my office all the time. No, now you can.

But parents feel like they can't communicate with their kids or that they don't have the right to

speak into their kids' lives anymore once they've handed over a list of freedoms. Right, right.

Yeah. You know, and you were kidding me earlier that you can tell I'm getting older because

I hear the same questions over and over again and I have to kind of like quit being frustrated.

These people don't know that you've already heard this a thousand times this year. And this is a

common one. Like, hey, Dr. Williams, we gave up,

we gave the freedom over. And now I feel like I can't say anything wrong. Opposite. It should

work where you can say stuff. But, you know, there was a, there was a really foundational book,

still good, called How to Talk, So Children Will Listen, and How to Listen

So Children Will Talk.

I think it's the other way around.

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