Episode 104: you aren't doing life wrong

Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Andrea Owen

How To, Education, Self-improvement

4.7 • 517 Ratings

🗓️ 22 June 2016

⏱️ 19 minutes

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A few weeks ago I hosted the 7-Day Courage Challenge, where hundreds of women come together. I open up a Facebook group and these brave women come in and share their answers to daily challenges and questions I send them. One challenger posted this in the group, and I felt inclined to write about it... “The thing that I beat myself up over is the fact that I can't seem to get any of it right! I feel dumb saying that, I live a relatively nice life it's not like I'm alone and destitute or anything. I just feel like I've always been capable of so much more and somehow am too defective to make it work. I screwed up college so bad I never graduated. I've had opportunities pass me by because I either 1) start and never finish or 2) don't bother because I know I'll f*** it up. Now here I am staring 40 in the face and what am I? Like, shouldn't I know by now? I get in my head and make great plans and goals and dreams and I just can't get out of my own way to make it work. I don't think I'm doing life right.” -Sara First of all-- define “doing life right”. When I hear this term, it’s a big giant fucking red flag that screams one word: Perfect. Personally, I don’t know anyone who’s perfect (and I know a lot of really, really awesome people), and I don’t want to know anyone who’s perfect. I wouldn’t trust that person for shit. On the other side of that same coin, if I had to guess, I’d bet you have super high expectations of yourself. You thought you would be at x, y, and z when you turned 40 and you’re not there. Or, you’re comparing yourself to other people that are your age, or even strangers you make up have better lives than you do. My friend Christine calls this an expectation hangover, when we expect things will be a certain way, and they turn out different. So, check yourself. What is “so much more” that you speak of? Write it out. I’m all for you having goals to achieve your version of “success”, but watch out if that version of success is for you, or if it’s expectations that you think matter to make you “worthy” and loved more by others, or if it’s the expectations others have put on you. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:28.7	this is the your kickass life podcast episode number one zero four this is the your kickass life podcast with and ria ow, a no BS guide to self-help and badassery.
0:43.5	Because ladies, let's face it, life's too short for it to not kick ass.
0:49.7	And here's your host, the girl who serves it up straight with a side of crazy.
0:55.6	Andrea Owen.
0:58.9	Hey there, Ask Kickers.
1:01.9	Welcome to another edition of the podcast.
1:03.5	I'm so glad you're here.
1:08.8	And I'm just so honored that you keep showing up every week, every Wednesday for a new episode.
1:14.4	Today, I'm all alone, and I am going to talk to you about a topic that kind of came on my radar unexpectedly. So it was kind of just out of the blue
1:22.2	topic that I'm excited to share with you in just a minute. But I do have one announcement.
1:27.8	So you may have heard already by now.
1:30.1	But the Kickhouse Courage project, The Experience, isn't that quite a dramatic name?
1:35.1	But The Experience is open for registration.
1:38.7	And we are kind of in the middle of open registration.
1:41.7	We are going to start officially on June the 28th.
1:46.1	And we already have, I don't know, a few dozen of you signed up and I'm ecstatic to start
1:52.8	this journey coming up.
1:54.7	And it's basically what it is is 30 days and it's four topics. And topics are things that you know when I sat down to
2:04.4	think about okay what do I want to teach in a 30 day class because you know I hate using the
2:09.5	word intensive because people are like what I don't know about that but it kind of is an
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