Episode 10: You are allowed to leave
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 575 Ratings
🗓️ 30 April 2018
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
This episode is all about permission. It's about how women seem to evolve in middle-age and how we seem to be outgrowing our marriages at alarming rates, and how to know if that's ok or not.
In the last few weeks as I've been speaking with clients there's a recurring theme that keeps coming up. I keep hearing women say that their husband is a really nice guy, he's a great dad, a great provider, they list their husband's great qualities and then berate themselves for their own misery and usually end up in a wail of "why can't i just be happy?"
And often it's because they've changed over the course of time.
You are allowed to change. You are allowed to grow. And you are allowed to choose to leave your marriage.
If you've done all the work you can, if you've been to therapy, if you've asked your husband to go to therapy with you, if you've been bending yourself into a pretzel for the last ten years trying to take all the responsibility for all the things because you've been taught in 12-step rooms, in personal development programs, in therapy that you are responsible for your happiness, and you can create any relationship you want, but it's still not fucking working, your marriage, at this point in time, may be unworkable. And that's ok.
And the thing that can be hard for us to wrap our minds around is that no one has to be at fault. No one has to be wrong. When something isn't workable, it's often no one's fault.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have real, honest, smart, |
| 0:11.6 | and sometimes even hilarious conversations about co-parenting, separation, and divorce, and all that goes along with that. |
| 0:18.9 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, certified life |
| 0:22.4 | and relationship coach, and happily divorced mom who helps women decide if they should stay in or |
| 0:27.3 | leave their marriages and then guides them through the process one step at a time. |
| 0:36.3 | Hey everyone, thank you so much for tuning in. I appreciate every minute you spend with me. I know you have busy lives and are managing a lot, so I really am grateful for the time you spend with me each week. Just a few things I want to remind you about today. The first is that if you're not already, |
| 0:55.0 | hop on over to Instagram and follow me there. |
| 0:58.0 | I post daily with information and thoughts |
| 1:01.1 | and sometimes kind of ridiculous shit, |
| 1:03.0 | but mostly things that I think are super important |
| 1:05.5 | to the divorce process. |
| 1:07.1 | So you can find me over on Instagram at Coach Kate Anthony. So hit me up over there. And the other thing I want to remind you about are a couple of new programs that I've just launched. All of my programs are one-on-one coaching experiences because I really believe that deciding to stay in or leave your marriage is a personal process that |
| 1:28.9 | requires a lot of dedicated care. That being said, I want to try to make it as accessible as possible. |
| 1:36.2 | So I've created two new programs that are more financially accessible than a three-month one-on-one |
| 1:42.4 | coaching program, which is what I've really been offering |
| 1:44.8 | exclusively for the last few years. First, I created a deep dive one-off coaching session, |
| 1:51.2 | which is designed to help you dig into some of the more intense aspects of figuring out |
| 1:55.7 | whether it's him or you. And in this session, we dig deeply into some of your biggest concerns and complaints, |
| 2:03.2 | and I give you honest feedback about all of them, including a personalized prescription plan |
| 2:08.9 | after our call. The other program is called Rooted, and you've probably heard me talk about it |
| 2:15.3 | before. It's a five-week one-on-one coaching experience |
| 2:19.3 | designed to help you find your strength, build your confidence, and step into your power. |
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