Good morning and welcome to the Increase from Impact Podcast. I'm Justin Sua, episode 1,8002.

One thing we discuss very often with elite athletes is this axiom, the things you try to control but can't end up controlling you.

I'll say it once again, the things that you try to control but can't end up controlling you. I'll say it once again, the things that you try to control but can't end up controlling

you. There is a term that we often discuss and the term is to not should all over yourself. S-H-O-U-L-D. Do not

should all over yourself. And what I mean by that is saying, telling yourself,

I shouldn't be nervous. I should be confidence. I should be in this place. I should have known

better. I should have done this, should have done that. I should be here. I should do this.

Shouldn't do that. All these different i should do this shouldn't do that all these different

shoulds and the problem with that is when you should all over yourself what begins to happen is you

allow the past or the future or things that you cannot control control you if you tell yourself that you shouldn't be nervous when you're clearly nervous,

that creates this expectation that you're a robot and that you are not allowed to feel the way you feel.

When you tell yourself, I should be confident, what you're saying is that you aren't allowing yourself to feel these feelings

of lack of confidence. You're not allowed, you're so focused on how you feel that you focus less

on what you should do and how you should respond or how you could respond to this situation.

And so when you constantly tell yourself that you should or should not be doing

something, you build for yourself these unexpected expectations. And in addition to that,

these feelings of trying to control something you can't. And you're beating up on yourself

over a situation that you have no control over or largely have no

control over and then you begin to focus on that rather than the things you can control.

Once again, the things you can't control end up controlling you.

And so what do you do?

You catch yourself, shitting all over yourself, and then you identify,

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