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My wife is leaving me and someone is going to jail, all because I just forced my stepdaughter out of the house. Am I the a-hole? I feel like we got to play some relationship bingo. Like, if you are getting divorced and maybe going to jail, you might be the a-hole. Bing, me, bing, bing, bang. This house has been in my family for generations, and it has a lot of sentimental value to me.

I am now with a long-term girlfriend of seven years after a divorce from my first wife, which ended on good terms. She has a daughter from a previous marriage, and I have a daughter from my marriage as well. Our daughters are both 17, with mine being basically three months younger. Kara, the oldest, is going to be turning 18 in May. Now, Kara will be going to school near the beach house that we have and asked if she could live in it and save some money, which would be a significant help to her. I don't think you could give an 18 year old to beach house. I think that's a recipe for disaster. I think first mistake is if you want your beach house to be trash, then you you can give your 18-year-old a beach house. Just make sure like I guess an insurance can cover it or something. Yeah, destroy the property. My daughter, Emmy, approached me and has said that she wanted to live there after the summer, but wanted to live in it alone also while going to school. Now, this house is more than big enough for two, but she pointed out that they have very different lifestyles and would be far more comfortable alone or with a friend if I insisted that she lived with someone else. I wonder what the lifestyles are. It was a frank conversation, and my daughter brought up the fact that the home will be hers one day, so it made sense, and she's right. The home will be hers by law in a few years as I'm going to pass it to her.

My girlfriend and my stepdaughter Kara are very upset and calling it favoritism and pointing out that she will already be set up for life having a free ride to school via scholarships and housing while my stepdaughter Kara will have to be using loans.

And she may have to take a gap year to attend another school altogether.

They're asking me to reconsider and I think I've damaged my relationship. Am I the A-hole in this decision? I agree

that it's favorism, but Emma is my daughter. Of course I'm going to favor her. Right. Now, there's

an update here. Ladies and gentlemen, know where you're at right now. Let me know where you're

out right now in the comments. That's tricky, dude. It's kind of, it's a little bit tricky, right? It's a little bit tricky. I mean, it is his daughter. It is going to be his daughter's house. Yeah. But it's not her house yet. I feel like it would be right to allow the other daughter to live there at the very least. I'm kind of feeling some Aho vibes going on a little bit. Yeah, I think

maybe from his daughter. Well, there was an update. So I spoke to my daughter, Emmy, and her mother,

and let them know where I stood that I was with Emmy. But I also felt that my stepdaughter Kara and her

mom deserve a genuine conversation. So this is the conversation we had this past Friday. The talk

started okay.

Obviously, there were some emotions, but I said that yelling in tears would not be used to influence

anybody. After it was all said and we gan, I just opposed the situation as this. This is a second home

that I own fully and outright. It will be my daughter, Emmys, fully and legally in a few years. But as of

today, it is mine. However, like the house, Emmy is mine as well and my responsibility. No one but us is entitled to it and make no mistake. Emmy is indeed entitled to it. It may not be fair in your eyes, but it is what it is. Emmy, I can see why they may think it's selfish as the house can accommodate both, but I will support whatever you want to do. This is not a discussion to change your mind, but to better understand it. So then Kara and her mom were saying they didn't understand why she didn't want her to live there with her, as this would dictate a huge part of her future. The answer was half expected and the other half hard for everyone to swallow. Emmy said she didn't trust Kara to actually focus on school and not make the home into a

party house. She point blank asked Kara if she could actually accept not having guests over.

Kara said something like a few people two or three days a week wouldn't be a problem. The answer

should have been yes. Yikes. Emmy said that she wouldn't feel safe with her bringing over strange

men whenever she wanted and her dad would want to visit and she wouldn't feel safe with her bringing over strange men whenever she wanted.

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