EP343: Are you the Adored or the Adorer in Your Relationship?

I Don't Get It

Ashley Iaconetti, Naz Perez, Lauren Iaconetti - Wave Podcast Network

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4.3 • 3.5K Ratings

🗓️ 18 September 2023

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

Classic Ramble vibes this week! Lauren kicks things off by sharing a theory she recently learned about the adored and the adorer in relationships. We try to decide which one we think we each prefer to be in our relationships, but it’s not as easy as it seems at first. We also talk about the way a person’s voice can make or break how we feel about them, and we react to some saved voice messages. Lauren tells us why she loves Kylie and Timothée Chalamet as a couple. Naz tells us about attending the U.S. Open and her recent Esalen retreat where she learned all about her Enneagram number. We’re going to talk a lot more about that next week. You can take the same test Naz took to find out your number here.

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0:00.0	It's a rumble. My shirt is my friend. If you guys are watching on the Patreon, my friend
0:11.1	of yours, Brandon Florida, called Opie. Oh, I like it. It's so cute. It's really cute.
0:17.5	Is that orange or that's an orange on a bungee, right? He's in orange. It's called Opie,
0:21.0	OFY. It's really dope. It's really awesome. Anyways, we have so much to talk about. We
0:25.7	just started out. Oh wait, Lauren's going to start. I have nothing to update you guys on.
0:29.8	Well, no, I was going to say Lauren sent us a sick TikTok video anytime, ladies. Okay,
0:37.3	wait, actually, Andrew is going to play the sound so you guys can know exactly what we're
0:41.4	talking about. And then we'll go into the conversation. Okay, perfect. No two people can like
0:45.8	each other exactly the same amount. Like that is impossible, which means that in any relationship,
0:50.6	one person likes the other person more and the other person likes the other person less.
0:54.8	Inevitable. That can change. That can go up and down. There are different gaps and things
0:58.7	like that, but you can't ever be permanently equal. This person is the adorer. This person is
1:04.6	the adorer. There's actually pros and cons to both positions. One position isn't necessarily
1:10.9	better than the other. And most people, not just women, most men and women want to be the adorer.
1:18.4	People don't think that they do, but they want to be the adorer because the adorer gets to be
1:23.0	with the one they love and what better experience is that? They're the one who get to have the
1:27.4	emotional experience in the relationship. They get to wonder about what that person is doing with
1:32.1	another round. They need to get excited when their phone rings and that person is on the phone.
1:36.5	Or what's going on? I'm nervous that he hasn't called or she hasn't texted. People often want
1:41.8	that kind of, we call it romance, but that emotional experience when it comes to their relationships.
1:46.9	On the other hand, the adorer doesn't really have that. This person gets to be with the one
1:51.5	they love. This person needs to be loved by the one they're with. It's a different experience.
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