Hey everyone, welcome back to the Marcos Mama's podcast. I'm your host Elizabeth Joy joined by my husband here today.

Vito Presta. Hello. We are excited about today's episode. If you didn't listen to last week's it was awesome. I had Sophia Pavia on and she talked about how to advocate for yourself in pregnancy or trying to can see finding the right doctors, the right questions to ask and make sure that you're getting the support that you want. Instead of just being told like, Hey, I'm ready to start trying and they're like great. Come back in a year if you're not pregnant.

So she gives a lot of great information. I love following her and just really enjoyed chatting with her. So make sure you go back and listen to that. Today we are going to answer some listener questions and then just share some stuff that's been going on in our life.

Sounds good. What a what a awesome name to have. I know she's out. She's like, you can remember it because it rhymes Sophia Pavia. What rhymes with Presta?

The best. That's true. Oh, a name. Yeah. What could we name any future kids that would rhyme with Presta?

Preferably a boy name because we have hundreds of girl names picked out. If we ever have more girls, the name that keeps popping in my head is Cresta. That's not a name.

Cresta, Presta. Right. At your service. We give it a shot. Try it out. Yeah. Thanks for coming on, baby. I always love it when you're here. I love it when you have me. I appreciate it. I do. Oh, and I say it every time that I do feel honored when I'm on your podcast. It's a legit show and I feel I get nervous. Stop it. I do. You're cute. So we just we have some questions for both of us that we're going to go through.

And it's going to be fun. So some people ask like, how do you calm jovy like for moms that need a little bit of time for themselves?

And they're worried that like their partner's not going to be able to calm their baby down.

Yeah. If they know how to please let me know because I can't calm her. I so distracting her, removing herself from the situation or not even the situation, but just getting you out of sight out of mind.

Yeah. You can call her if I'm not around. Right. If it's just me and her is no problem. But as soon as some as soon as like she hears a noise that she thinks is you.

Like coming home or something. It comes a problem. As soon as she like accidentally says mama, then she's like, wait, where is where is mama? You know.

So removing you from the equation is very ease. It makes it a lot easier. And then also, um, keeping in mind the key things that really she likes or that distracts her like a certain book or a song or maybe going outside.

She loves playing outside. Yeah. So taking mental note of like, hey, she's having most fun during this time.

Mm hmm. Pull this card when mom needs to go. You know, for a walk or whatever. Right. And I think that something that you have to tell yourself because sometimes it's hard trusting anybody else like with your babies when they've just been relying on you for life.

And I remember like the first time that Vito went in at night to calm her down. And at first, she was mad. She's like, wait a second. You're not mom, you know.

But then you calmed her. And so she got a little mad at first. And then she was fine. And just reminding yourself that like your partner is a competent adult who can handle a baby. And they're going to figure it out.

And I think that that's important to like knowing that everyone's going to be okay. It's going to be okay. It's okay to take a little break for yourself.

Yeah. And I think too, it's important for the partner to know that like, for example, if I walk in at night when she's crying. And she really, it's pitch black. She'll like smell me or she'll just feel my hands are different.

She'll throw herself into like deeper into the crib. And it's very disheartening. And it's very much like then I'll pick her up and I will try to console her and she'll push and scream even harder.

But as soon as I can get her like in a good position that I know she likes with me, which she doesn't like with you. It's different.

So I don't try the same things as you. I don't try to be you. But it's important for the partner to know that like, hey, don't give up right away.

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