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Didn't think I'd be posting an update after everything that has happened, but a lot of people

asked for it and I feel like writing down some of the stuff might help me with putting this

all behind me.

Not really looking for any advice here, just putting my thoughts out there.

As I said in the last post, I called off the wedding.

At first, I didn't tell anyone the reason, but as people here pointed out, it was something that I had to do if I wanted

to get ahead of this. So I started calling people again and let them know exactly why the wedding

was off. It was an effing humiliating experience to tell people my fiancee made out with some

other guy while her friends cheered her on. But everyone has been really supportive, especially my parents and my sister. That's good. That's good. I also called my ex's parents since they helped with some of the expenses of the wedding. And I wanted to let them know that they should try to get their deposits back. To my surprise, my ex's mother picked up the phone. She already knew everything that had happened. Wow. Well, that makes sense. She would, her daughter would tell her. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Apparently my ex told her everything. I didn't ask her some questions to see just how much they knew. And everything seemed to line up with what I knew happened.

They didn't try to make me stay with my ex or anything.

As for my ex herself, she and I did meet once to discuss everything.

She begged me for a second chance and even said that she would cut off her friends who enabled her and suggested that we could go to couples counseling.

I told her that I don't want to spend the

rest of my life being her warden, making sure that she isn't hanging out with people I don't

approve of, and that if we began a marriage already going to couples therapy for something as big

as this, then we were already doomed to fail. Wow. That's fair. I also told her that I can't see

how I would ever trust her again after she did the exact thing I expressed my concerns about and that a marriage can't survive without trust. So this is where I am now. I'm single and I think I'm going to stay that way for a while. Yikes. Yeah. That was seven years. That was seven years. Oh, yeah. It still hurts after spending seven years together with this woman, but there's just no trust there anymore. Anyway, I don't think I'm going to post any more updates as far as I'm concerned. I'm ready to close this chapter of my life. And there are some relevant comments. Yes. Um, whenever you're with someone for a number of years, how long should you take in order to get back out there in the game? I think it depends on the person. Because some people and I think we've talked about this before. I think it depends on the person and your specific like, you know, ability to move on from things. But I think it also depends on how the relationship ended.

Because if it ended like this, you have a seven, your relationship, partner cheats on you,

but you, you know, still love them.

I think you could take a little bit longer.

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