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Am I the A-hole for staying with my parents and refusing to come home unless it is in the condition I left it in before my in-laws visited?

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We have a house that has been ruined by OPE's parents, question mark? Or unnamed individuals? Opie's in-laws. Opie's in-laws have ruined it. And Opie is staying at their parents. Right. So, wow. See, that's a tough one to make the stand against your in-laws. That's like not home turf. But you know what? Dang it if I don't respect it.

Yeah.

Dang it if I don't respect it.

In laws clean the place, but there's only one way to really find out. Build that T's. So this comes from Adept Entrepreneur 44 and they say, my husband cannot control his family. Or at least he refuses to. Nice. when his parents visit and give us shit for forcing our kids to do chores, he gives in, and the house slowly becomes a mess that I have been left to clean up. When his siblings visit, we are expected to clean up after them. I never agreed to this, so now I leave. I lock my office up and go to my parents' house. I meet up with his family at restaurants or other public

places. His parents have learned now that when they visit, they have to clean up after the kids or

get them or my husband to do it. They tried saying that I was abusive for refusing to do housework

while they visited. It's a little bit of a stretch. You're abusing me by not cleaning up my mess.

So I posted a picture of my home before they came and one I took during their last visit. Smart. I asked them why the house was so messy and dirty and did they have anything to do with it? They said it wasn't their mess. I replied that the house was clean before they showed up. Excuse me. Once they started getting dog piled for messing up my house, they threw the kids under the

bus. They said my kids were uncontrollable. And it was their mess. I pointed out that there was no

mess until they came. So obviously, my kids were able to clean up after themselves when there

weren't people telling them not to. My husband's siblings have canceled plans to visit because

they know I won't be there to clean up after them or cook,

so they will have to cook or spend money on takeout and restaurants. Great outcome in my opinion.

My husband says, I'm being unfair putting all the work of cleaning up on him. I said he has two

children to help him as well as adult guests who should be able to not make a mess. I also told him he could just pay for a cleaning service out of his discretionary funds if he wanted

to let his family run rampant and not clean up after them.

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