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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Alisa Pressman and I can't get enough of this

conversation about attachment. And my friend Bethany Saltman wrote a beautiful book called

Strange Situation, a mother's journey into the science of attachment that she wrote a year ago

actually. And she's been on the podcast before. I had to have her on again because when I hear

mom guilt and the struggle that parents go through and the misconceptions about what it means to be

a good parent, I know it means it's time to have this conversation. So we are talking about

what attachment really is, what it is not, and how you can lay the foundation for this understanding

and this way of being. And as Bethany says, attachment is like breathing. So you're doing it.

If you enjoy this episode, please don't hesitate to subscribe, rate, and write a little review.

It's so helpful when I hear from you guys. And as always, please DM me on at Raising Good Humans

podcast on my Instagram. And I will post answers in videos, in my stories. And also, please join me

on Clubhouse. I am at Dr. Aliza. And I'm going to have some fun conversations there too,

and follow-ups about this episode. There are so many myths around what it means to be attached.

And there are so many, I think, you and I have talked about this, but incredibly damaging,

parenting books and content that misuse the science of attachment and borrow the name and don't

borrow the science. So can you talk about what those myths are and what actually we're talking about

when we're talking about the science of attachment? I would be very happy to do that.

So yeah, some of the most damaging myths around attachment are that if you don't do a certain

thing, your child may not be, quote, attached. So that's the big broad stroke of the whole thing.

And the reason that's a problem is because attachment is a system like breathing or like

digesting, it is just happening. Whether or not it's an optimal or super effective

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