I think these are a net positive. Like any other technology we talk about, you can't put the

genie back in the bottle. So the question is how do we develop a set of norms around this kind of stuff?

Right now, like the skill that's more important than anything else in the dating world is like,

how do you set up that profile? I think it's healthier for people to learn the skills of like

healthy social interaction, healthy risk taking, being respectful, interacting with someone and not being

a jerk about it versus like, how do I make sure that I'm flashy in this way and I look this

way in my photos.

Welcome to The Lost Debate, a show for political eclectics. I'm Robbie Gupta. And I'm Ricky Schlaught.

Well, Ricky, what's happening?

Well, I heard you went to an interesting book party last night. Met some new people. Yes, I went to this talk by Todd Rose, who wrote this book and this study that we actually talked about a few episodes back called Collective Illusions. And if people remember, this is when we were talking about the differences between people's public and private sentiments, which is, you know, reveals that generally speaking, it's like very much like related to the mission of this show. Like people will say one thing, but they

truly believe something else. And they feel like other people share some views that they don't

have and they just feel pressured to not, you know, state what their actual beliefs are. But it was really interesting because after the talk, somebody came, I had a back and forth with him about the methodology, if you remember. We were talking about, like, how do you know somebody's private sentiments? Like, how could you measure that? And he was really good. He gave a good description of it, but somebody came up to me afterwards and said, basically implied we were skeptical of him and i don't that's not how i remember our reporting on him i remember us

actually loving that study but yeah i don't i don't either but yeah i mean this is i i do have a preconceived

like bias to favor that argument that people are self-sensoring. I think that's kind of the case.

So I would say I'm probably more in his camp than not.

But the methodology is definitely like, I mean, I think it's a difficult thing to accomplish.

But anecdotally, it certainly seems to be the case that people have conflicting,

almost like Soviet like personal and public opinions.

Yeah, what I thought was really interesting was what he was talking about.

He said that persuasion is not the answer.

I think this is like a lot of political activists and strategists are like,

all right, let me just run ads trying to say like, hey,

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