You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 78.

Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.

I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy.

Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.

Welcome, my beautiful brave hearts.

I love you so much.

So before we get started today, I want to make sure you know that this is a bonus episode series that goes along with episode number 77.

So if you have not listened to episode number 77, please do so before listening to this episode as the background material that is covered in there is kind of necessary for you to pick up what I'm putting down

in this episode. So let's get started. Today I am speaking with Alexandria and Emily. They are two

of many beautiful brave hearts I've worked with that actually left their relationship. So they weren't the ones that got broken up with, but they were the ones that broke up with

their significant others.

So I'm going to be doing a whole episode on how to say goodbye to someone you love.

And I already have an episode about regret during a breakup.

But oftentimes I see my clients struggling with

getting over an X that they left, or maybe it was a mutual ending. And there's nothing

technically wrong with the relationship. It just wasn't everything that they wanted it to be.

And a couple of things that I see here is it's like we're afraid to leave.

When we do, we kind of regret our decision as if it's like happening to us. So today I want to

talk about and explore how do we move on when we left the relationship. And as you listen in on

this interview with Alexandria and Emily, I want you to keep in mind some of the following things.

The first point is sometimes we leave or we break up with a partner from making a rash decision because we're reacting to our emotions.

I wish I could see hands raised here of like how many of you have done this, right? We once, and typically when we do this, when we make a rash

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