Extra value meals are back for just five dollars get a savory and sweet sausage egg and cheese McGrittles plus hash browns and a coffee only at McDonald's for limited time only prices and participation may vary prices may be higher in Hawaii Alaska and California and for delivery. Your first great love story is free when you sign up for a free 30 day trial at audible.co.uk-wondery that's audible.co.uk-wonderyery. That's audible.co.ukslashwondery. What's up you guys? And welcome back to another episode of... Your favorite aunties podcast. You're welcome back, gave me like... On a TLC. T-T-T. T-T-T. T-T-T. I was like, okay. That's how I said it. I'm here't even here. I feel like my brain is like just somewhere else right now.

Okay, we'll break it here.

Let me use it.

It's really.

It's really.

It's really.

Just forgive me, forgive me. I just, you know, I don't know what's been going on will be lately. This is my mind. Did he have any unforgiveness in your heart? I'll probably do.

I'm proud.

Yeah.

Yes, I do.

Yes, I do.

Yes, I do.

Well, you know, that's so interesting

because today we want to talk a little bit about something very important. That is forgiveness. Because, you know, if you don't forgive, you ain't going to see the kingdom. That's what he's saying. If you can't forgive your brother, how can your father forgive you? And a man going to see the kingdom if he don't forgive. That's right. Did you imagine though, like doing the right thing, but just because you didn't forgive your third grade teacher for making you read out loud, like you wanna make it in? All right. So what is level to forgiveness now? Oh, you think he gonna actually? It might be. Ooh. Okay, well come on, let's talk about that then. I feel like there is like a... I don't wanna say minimal level. But things that happened a long time ago that you may not, like do you have to intently be like, I forgive this situation, I forgive this person, or can you genuinely move on and that be the forgiveness. You're not saying. Because what does it look like? How do you know, like, okay, I have forgiveness? I guess when your heart doesn't race when somebody brings it up. Because I know it was like maybe eight years of separation between me and a person. I saw him and my heart started racing. Really? Yes. But I mean, racing with anger or just racing would like, oh, okay. For sure. Okay. I could have ran away with my car steal. Yeah. Not joking. Yeah. I don't know, because I feel like forgiveness in me, I think, and I could be wrong. It can be complete without me having to just be super like, oh my gosh, I forgive this person doing all the rituals of letting it go and all that. It's just like, I'm over it. I've moved on. And therefore, if I'm not holding onto it and I'm not holding it against the person, I feel like I forgive it. That's fine and that's cool and that may be. But I don't know. I feel like forgiveness sometimes. If you say if you take back your forgiveness, let's say you do forgive them, but then you realize, I'm no, I don't. I'll take it back. But are you taking it back for yourself? Or because it's like, they don't deserve it. I don't know. I'm just trying to think, when is the last time I had to forgive someone? Like what was in the fence? Like what is somebody doing to me that needs to be forgiven? What is forgiveness? Define that. I mean, let me get the definition of the Marion Webster. Okay. Yes, man. I think that

Yeah, I think forgiveness means not holding and

offense against a person place or think

Okay, like I'm not holding it against you. I'm not holding onto it. It's not

At the forefront of my mind when I consider you and therefore I have forgiven it. Because for forgiveness, I forgot who it was. Was it a Yonla? Or it might have been Maya. That was talking about forgiveness doesn't have to be you forgetting that the situation occurred. It does not also have to be you saying that the situation that occurred was okay. You can still say, I don't agree with the decision that was made or I was hurt by the action that was taken and still forgive it. Like you don't have to excuse the behavior to forgive someone. So to forgive is to cease to feel resentment against the offender to give up resentment or claim of something and then to grant relief from payment of. Okay, well that's forgiveness. Okay. But to cease to feel resentment. Yeah. Like I'm not holding it against you. Mm-hmm. But I don't think that forgiveness has to be reconciliation. I know that's a big conversation in the church. Yeah. I don't feel like I have to be back in relationship with you. I forgive you, but also stay over there. And then just to go a little bit further, resentment, a feeling of indignant displeasure and persistent ill will to something regarding wrong insult or injury, something regarded as wrong insult or injury. So feeling of indignant displeasure, Yeah persistent ill will that's resentment up. Yeah. Yeah

So to forgive is to no longer hold that resentment against that person. Yeah, you're not holding it against them

Mm-hmm. It's tough, but when you think about like the words says you haven't been forgiving for

All the things that you've done setting and thought

Maybe it's the thought for me. You know what I said? What goes on up here? Yeah. If you think it, because you were meant, I think a lot. But you know what, as I've gotten older, all throughout the day, I'd be like, love, forgive me. You know, you had a wrong thought or whatever. Love, forgive me. You're immediate. Maybe you make it in. You need to forgive me. Sometimes you need to do that, love, forgive me. To be immediate. It's not being a reason you make it in. You need to be immediate, forgive me. Sometimes you need to do that, love, forgive me. Yeah, every minute. Cause for giving, I think for me, sometimes until the offense may come back up, I'll forget about it. You know, until, and they come back up and just it's like, hmm, yeah, I'm still upset about that.

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