was up you guys and welcome back to another impactful wonderful awesome amazing funny good ranging therapeutic understanding in your business episode of your favorite aunties podcast that's good let's work let's work it was about the words but I mean it yeah so we told All of y'all last week that we would do a part two because it was getting good.

It was.

The never-cans. It was about the words, but I mean it. Yeah, so we told you all last week that we would do a part two because it was getting good. It was. Never can say goodbye. No, no, no, no. And so let's pick up where we left off. We were talking about, I had asked you the question of, how do you know in a romantic relationship, when to say goodbye? Cause I'm sure somebody's listening like, oh shoot, I think I need to say goodbye to this relationship that I'm in right now. And so you were talking about what your things were. Yeah. And I just wanna stand that vein and then we'll talk about saying goodbye in other areas. Yeah. So for people who may have recently said goodbye. What would you, what advice would you give them or what would you tell them? And you know what? I have another question. Because for you, for you, we'll talk about down to. As a person who no shade shade you be saying goodbye more than once No shade What can you say you're not lying? No, but what how like speak to that like saying goodbye more than one time yeah You know I love a good spin the block. I love a good spin. I love a good spin the block. Man, sometimes you just wanna see like, well, how are we gonna work? You know, I don't know. I think for me it's just different. I just have a hard time saying goodbye and being gone because again, like, you know, you'll miss that person.

And you're thinking of that person. And, you know, should we get back together? Did I make the right decision? What if it's going to work? What if I love prematurely? And I know you spoke to that, like, you don't leave prematurely, but I know at times when I get overwhelmed, that's what I'll do. I'm like, you know, this is not gonna work. And then so then I'll

feel like guilty. Like maybe I didn't work enough or maybe I didn't do enough and then I'll be like, you was right. You like, and you know, I don't know, it just depends. What does that typically do for you? I feel like whenever it is the second or third time before it's fifth time you get. No, whenever it is the second time around and you get to a point where you realize, okay, no, this is not working, then I feel like, no, I did try. Like I tried to, you know, work it out and then I have more peace about it. It's just also sometimes depending upon how and why you break up because sometimes it's not like a bad breakup. It's just a, you know, we have differences or what have you. And you try to figure out like, are we going to remain cool? Because we weren't friends before. We became friends during. Right. So that kind of thing is like, do you talk the next day after a breakup? Like, are we on the phone? Are we going to be texting like, or is it creating room to still have those feelings be at the surface and still get back to get some time that having conversations with somebody who just weren't with, we'll put you right back in that spot. So it's a sticky thing because it's like you do talk to this person day in and day out and you know, you live life alongside them for like some time. So it is kind of hard to just put a stop and a pause on everything. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Does that why you laughing? Because. I mean, does it do anything different like the second time or, you know, third time, whatever time saying goodbye and then the first time? Sometimes. Because sometimes, you know, the other person might put a better foot forward because it's like, oh shoot, now hold on. My good thing for me to be out the door, You know, so it really just depends on what I am learning is though you want to be loved properly the first time, it might be really beautiful the second time around. With the same person. Yeah. Because it's just depends. I mean, sometimes it could be a nail-eat-shonty thing. You know, 20 years non-lime here. But you know, when the stars begin to align and oh, not the stars, honey. Right, right, right, honey. You know, I'll be working in the shadows. But we've got to say that because y'all be able to get that. Sometimes, you know, things just do work out a second time around. And it's like you want them to work first. You do. But sometimes, time away from each other will change. You can come back together and it work better because you've got to experience life without that person and see, you know, the value that they brought or just different things that you just appreciated about them. Yeah. So it really just depends, but I do know that there are some time people do have very incredible love stories the second time around or third time around or when people get married, then they divorce that person and then remar-marry them and it's just a whole new marriage,

a whole new relationship.

Mm-hmm.

And as you got a thea, it definitely depends.

Yeah, it's not everybody's story. It is a cautionary. A cautionary. Come on. Cautionary is a blot. Cautionary is a blot. Mm-hmm. It's a blot. Sometimes it is a cautionary tale, but it's a tale to tell.

For sure, everybody's different. Definitely just be led by the Holy Spirit.

Definitely be led by the Holy Spirit. Definitely be led by the Holy Spirit. Because that is the thing. Every relationship you're in is teaching you something. Right. And sometimes it's your first time taking that class. Huh? It might be the second third. And so yeah. I don't be saying goodbye like that. Once I'm, yeah, we did break up and then, do it break up or do it juice. I don't know. It's not something that happens often for me. I'm definitely, just a very final person. Like, I'm good. But to be honest, sometimes it is, or most of the time it is my pride. Like, I'm not going back there. I had to strengthen enough to say by one time and I had enough to say by two that one time, like what am I doing? You know, I think that's very fair and I think you did bring up a point and I'm talking about me. Okay. Some of me specifically. When I'm in love, pride is out the window. Like, I don't care. I don't know, I'm not necessarily gonna be outside your house. You know, with the boom box. With the boom box, you know, but I will go up that mountain to say my marriage. I will, you know, like, it's just, there's something about it.

I mean, but when you're done, you're done.

Okay, cool, that's fine and that's dandy.

And there are times when you are done,

but like, when it comes to love,

sometimes you might have to be the person

to say something first or...

It just depends on why you're saying something.

Right, it does.

It absolutely does.

It's case by case.

It's case by case it's case by case

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