Ep 7 Love is Not Enough Part 1-- Lessons from my 20's.
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
Beatrice
4.8 • 3.4K Ratings
🗓️ 23 April 2026
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
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In this episode, we chat:
Why love... is not enough. The mistakes I made in my previous relationships. And what I got RIGHT in my 20's when it came to dating and what I undermined and didn't realize was important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone. You're going to want a pen and pad for this one!
What you'll learn in this episode:
- What I was evaluating and looking for in relationships that I actually got right and have taken with me in my 30's
- Where I've matured (and how you can too so you don't make my mistakes!) when it comes to really evaluating compatibility and saving yourself unnecessary STRESS.
- What I got WRONG in my 20's and would no longer dismiss (every woman should know these!)
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome back to the Clearer Not Louder podcast. My name is Beatrice and I'm your host. And for |
| 0:07.8 | today's episode, this episode is the episode I wish I had at 25, 26, girl, maybe even 27, 28, 29. |
| 0:21.9 | I'll tell you that. |
| 0:25.5 | I titled this episode, Love is Not Enough, |
| 0:29.5 | not because I want to sit here and rant to you about how love doesn't pay the bills. |
| 0:31.4 | This is not the type of conversation. |
| 0:39.4 | I think this is a conversation a lot of women quietly have with each other or with themselves as they get older, especially like with conversations I've had with women who are divorced or women who are in marriages, you know, |
| 0:48.8 | and maybe got married young and learn these sort of things later on. |
| 0:55.8 | So let's just jump right into it. |
| 0:58.4 | Love is not enough. |
| 0:59.3 | I dare to say it. |
| 1:00.3 | I am saying this with my entire chest. |
| 1:04.9 | In my 20s, I really thought I was evaluating relationships well. |
| 1:11.5 | And I think I was halfway there. |
| 1:16.4 | I think I was halfway there. |
| 1:19.8 | And I want to share with you how I was evaluating romantic relationships at 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, |
| 1:31.4 | and maybe even a little smision of 30. |
| 1:42.7 | And what I was missing and what I, like, what I did not look at then that now it is so obvious and clear. |
| 1:43.8 | I feel like, you know, they say your prefrontal, |
| 1:47.7 | is it your prefrontal cortex, your prefrontal lobe? Let me look this up. Okay, prefrontal cortex. |
| 1:55.5 | You know how they say it's developed by 25? Is it a lie? It's a lie. I am almost certain something happens at 30 that gets |
| 2:05.0 | activated. I am almost certain. I think it's a lie. I'm joking. It's not a lie. But I think I've even |
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