What's up about everybody? This is the Betray, the Addicted, and the Expert. My name is

Brannon and I am the Expert. And I'm Kobe. I am the addicted.

And I am Ashland and I was betrayed. All right so today's topic you know we

decided we've been talking a lot about addiction and recovery and you know broken trust and betrayal and we want to have you

We want to talk about the good stuff today and really the ultimate goal of all of

this which is creating some connection and having that connection

and that intimacy and that happiness together and so we wanted to hit on a topic

that that hopefully brings some hope but also is something that's good.

You know it might trigger some other things too, like some sadness that you don't have it or

some real yearning to get it, but we hope that we can give you specific steps to help you create

connection in your life and and also understand how the addiction does get in

the way of that. And so that's one of the first things I want to touch on is how you know an

addiction is an attachment disorder and so that's kind of heavy I mean even for

me like I've done enough work to kind of get that but how

what's that look like yeah I mean I could I could go into detail as to why it's an

attachment disorder you know I've heard it said that addiction is somebody's attempt to find God.

They want attachment, they want to feel connected.

And we all have a desire for connection.

And when somebody doesn't have healthy or secure attachment they turn to something else to get that attachment and then that something else be it drugs or

pornography or masturbation it creates shame which then undermines actual

healthy secure attachment in a relationship and so once you once you get to a place where that attachment is being healed and

somebody has secure attachment in their life they don't need the addiction anymore

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