Hi friends it's Sarah May. This is an episode about feeling like a fraud. For when you have the voice in your

head that tells you you're not good enough and you have no idea what you're doing. Are you guided by a belief that

something is wrong with you? That you're not good enough and that you can barely

keep people fooled about the fact that you are smart and capable.

Maybe you constantly seek out the likeness of somebody worthy,

but you always seem to feel just as worthless as before. You're never thin enough, you're never successful as you'd like to be, or maybe you're living a life that you know you don't want, but you're too afraid to do anything about it, because it's going to show the world that you are

weak and afraid and a shameful loser.

It's just better to stay safe and protected in the lie, even though you feel suffocated and

stifled by this life.

Well if this sounds like you, then you are in good company because this is a universal human trait to feel that we're not good enough and you never will be and all we can do is manage and hide.

And that's because so much of the self is defined by things we learn from others.

The brain we use to drive and make money is also the brain that computes risk based on very specific things

like the structure that we've built via our life experiences.

So it's natural to have grown up with a set of beliefs

that are, to say the least, not in favor of confidence

and self-love.

So many of us grow up with the subconscious understanding that we are only good and worthy if we do

X Y Z and that we have to keep trying or else we are unlovable. That that X YZ depends on your upbringing, your parents, how you were taught your worth by how you received love.

But in the West it usually revolves around things like being strong,

resilient, not having weakness, never crying, being a leader, getting the right job, looking thin and sexy, and having a specific

kind of house car and having attained a certain status by certain age, etc.

So it's a standard upheld by you as you grow and mature,

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