I'm Jodie Moore with Bold New Mom. This is episode number 63. How to say no.

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Today I'm going to talk to you about how to say no. This is such a common problem. Sometimes it's a

problem for me, but for some of y'all, it's a problem a lot more. So I have some things to talk to

you about today that I hope will help you think about saying no in a little bit different way and

will motivate you to work on this. This is a problem that causes all kinds of noise in our heads.

And when we have a hard time saying no, our lives can be easily less than authentic very quickly.

Our lives can become not our own. We can end up living not in alignment with what we truly feel

or want or believe. And I think it's one of those things that's again such a subtle thing we're

doing that we just kind of live with it, which creates a lot of dissonance and unnecessary tension,

the kind of tension and dissonance that does not equal growth, but rather will keep you stuck.

And I think because so many people struggle with it, it's really easy to ignore. It's easy to

just think, yeah, this is just human nature. And when you do, if you do ever talk to people about

it and say, I just have a hard time saying no, they'll probably nod their heads and smile and say,

yeah, me too, which is great. Empathy is great if you're experiencing shame, but it can keep you stuck

in that. Sometimes it tells our minds, see, this is normal. This is just life. You should just move on.

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