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Hello and welcome to Happier, a podcast where we talk about how to be happier. This week we'll talk about why it's useful to propose an anchor date, and we will hear from questioners themselves about how to ask them

questions if you want to get an answer. Surprisingly, this is a real challenge. I'm Gretchen

Reuben, a writer who studies happiness, good habits in human nature. I'm in my little home

office in New York City, and joining me today from Los Angeles is my sister

Elizabeth Kraft, who is having some issues with her voice?

That's me, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in LA.

And yes, Gritch, whenever I get a cold, it goes straight to my voice.

So hopefully I'll hold up okay. People talk about an Achilles heel and you definitely have an Achilles throat.

Yes, I do. Before we launch in, we got a few updates. So in the March episode of More Happier, I talked about how as a family we had this issue between Raymond Carver and Raymond Chandler, and Jennifer wrote,

I could so relate to your conversation about mixing up artists. I have always confused Henry Miller

and Henry James. It wasn't until I was recently, and now I'm in my 50s, reading something about

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