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Over It And On With It

EP 504: Stop Being the Savior with Tiffany

Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 16 July 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

In this powerful and emotionally honest session, Christine coaches Tiffany—a gifted, intuitive woman who’s been living inside the identity of caretaker, rescuer, and savior. As someone raised in a family marked by addiction, loss, and emotional chaos, Tiffany learned early on to take responsibility for others’ well-being, often at the expense of her own.

Now, with a brother spiraling and a deep longing to create a family of her own, Tiffany finds herself stuck in an exhausting cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and spiritual burnout. Christine gently but firmly guides her toward a redefinition of love—one that includes boundaries, dignity, and surrender, not depletion.

This episode speaks to every empath, helper, or healer who struggles with giving too much, confusing martyrdom with love, and forgetting their own needs in service of saving others.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel responsible for other people’s healing, happiness, or choices?
  • Have you been confusing helping with over-giving—or love with martyrdom?
  • Are you exhausted from trying to fix or save others who haven’t asked for your support?
  • What might open up for you if you believed that everyone is on their own soul path—and you don’t have to intervene?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Being the “savior” is often a survival role rooted in early identity confusion—not your true purpose.
  • There’s a sacred difference between being of service and being responsible for others.
  • You can give people the dignity of their own process—and that is its own act of love.
  • God/Source never asks you to deplete yourself in the name of love.
  • When you stop over-giving, you make space for reciprocal love, rest, and your rightful life.

How to Deepen the Work:

  • Reflect on this mantra: “I no longer rob others of the dignity of their own process.”
  • Get honest about where you’re still playing the role of rescuer—and release it with compassion.
  • Reorient your energy through prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices that restore you.
  • Redefine your non-negotiables in relationships, especially around addiction, boundaries, and reciprocity.
  • Begin to build a new identity: one rooted in self-trust, clear agreements, and spiritual alignment—not sacrifice.
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0:00.0

This is episode 504. Stop Being the Savior with Tiffany.

0:05.8

Welcome to Life Coaching with Christine Hassler, a space where truth and love come together

0:10.9

to guide you back to your truest self. Hi, I'm Christine, a master coach, author, and spiritual

0:16.5

psychologist. For over 20 years, I've supported people through the deep work of letting go, waking up,

0:22.4

and coming home to who they truly are.

0:24.7

Each week, you'll hear an unedited, unscripted coaching session with someone moving through a

0:28.8

challenge or block in their life.

0:30.7

These are tender and powerful conversations where deep healing happens in real time.

0:35.5

Even though I'm coaching someone else, you will hear yourself in

0:38.3

their story. This is a place where you will feel seen and supported and walk away with

0:43.0

insight, emotional relief, and tools you can apply in your own life. Let's dive into today's

0:48.6

session. Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the show. This is such an important episode because I know a lot of you out there have incredible gifts and incredible hearts and incredible empathy. And my sense is that many of you often give too much to put it blunt, and fall into a misunderstanding that it's your

1:14.7

responsibility to help, to save, to rescue people. You see someone suffering, especially

1:21.6

someone in your family or a close friend, and you feel like you absolutely have to jump in

1:27.3

at the expense of yourself often.

1:31.1

I heard Lisa Nichols speak many, many years ago. And out of all the things she said,

1:36.0

and she's a brilliant speaker, there was one that really jumped out at me. She said,

1:41.3

I only give from my saucer. She only gives from the saucer of her teacup when her

1:47.6

teacup is already overflowing. And many of you have an empty dried up teacup and you're still

1:54.3

giving from your saucer. And when we go into that savior archetype, we often kind of play God. And that's not really

2:05.5

our responsibility. So this episode is helping us to understand the line between being of service

2:12.9

and falling into a savior, martyr, playing God role, which robs people from the dignity of their

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