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Over It And On With It

EP 484: Overcoming the Fear of Being Incapable of Relationships with Stacey

Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.81.7K Ratings

🗓️ 8 January 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

In this transformative episode, Christine Hassler coaches Stacey, who opens up about living with misophonia, a neurological condition that causes extreme sensitivity to certain sounds, triggering fight-or-flight responses. Stacey shares how this condition has impacted her relationships, including her family and romantic connections, leaving her feeling isolated and doubtful about her ability to maintain long-term intimacy.

Christine compassionately guides Stacey to explore the interplay between her condition, beliefs about herself, and fears around relationships. Together, they delve into the deeper layers of guilt, shame, and self-worth that have influenced Stacey's ability to open herself to love and connection.

This heartfelt coaching call is a powerful reminder that while we all have challenges, they do not define our worthiness or capacity for relationships. Christine offers practical insights and tools to help Stacey and listeners embrace hope, reframe their beliefs, and find empowering ways to move forward.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like a diagnosis or past experience has become a barrier to forming or maintaining relationships?
  • Are you carrying guilt or shame over how your challenges have affected others?
  • Do you feel stuck in a pattern of self-protection that limits your ability to experience intimacy?
  • Are you ready to explore new perspectives and approaches to shift your mindset and open to new possibilities?

 

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Our challenges, no matter how overwhelming, do not make us unworthy of love or connection.
  • Beliefs about ourselves and our perceived "flaws" often become self-fulfilling prophecies, but they can be shifted.
  • Neurodivergent conditions, like misophonia, can be addressed with a combination of self-compassion, rewiring techniques, and relational support.
  • Everyone brings challenges into relationships—it's about how we work through them together.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

  • Explore resources like Dr. Robert Melillo's work on brain balance, and rewiring techniques for neurological conditions.
  • Focus on the gifts and strengths you bring to relationships, rather than fixating on challenges.
  • Practice belief work, such as Byron Katie’s “The Work,” to shift limiting narratives and open yourself to new possibilities.
  • Consider joining a supportive program or retreat to broaden your perspective and strengthen your inner resources.

 

Special Invitation: March 2025 Retreat – From Wounds to Wisdom
Join Christine Hassler and Stefanos Sifandos for a life-changing retreat, From Wounds to Wisdom, taking place at the Art of Living Retreat Center from March 28–30, 2025. This immersive experience is designed to help you transform pain into power, gain clarity on your purpose, and step into your highest potential. Reserve your spot now! Click here!

 

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0:00.0

This is episode 484, overcoming the fear of being incapable of relationships with Stacey.

0:08.8

Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host, Christine Hassler, and for over a decade, I've been a life coach, speaker, and author.

0:16.5

Each week, you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing.

0:22.7

I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life.

0:28.4

Now, let's get on with the episode.

0:34.6

Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the show. How's your new year going so far? If you didn't listen to my

0:41.5

weekend episode, I talked about the nine themes for 2025. I sat in meditation one morning,

0:48.9

really early in the morning, and nine things came through. And it was interesting. I thought, wow, nine is interesting. I would have

0:56.7

thought five or ten. And when I asked why nine, I had it up 2025 and it is a nine year. So nine

1:07.1

themes for 2025, you can, you can catch that on Coach's Corner. Also, if one of your intentions

1:12.3

this year is to be in more community, really do things that get you out of a comfort zone but are

1:17.7

still nervous system friendly, I encourage you and invite you to the retreat. Steph and I are hosting

1:22.9

at the Art of Sacred Living. It's a beautiful retreat center in Boone, North Carolina. We're going to be hosting

1:29.6

the retreat, and you'll also have opportunities to take advantage of the center there. Admission is only

1:34.9

$375, which is so reasonable. It's the last weekend in March, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.

1:41.8

You can go to Christinehasser.com slash retreat. We're calling it

1:45.7

from wounds to wisdom. And really, this is a retreat to nourish your nervous system and get out

1:52.7

of your own way. Because we all get in our way with our subconscious patterns and programmings.

1:57.7

And even today, someone who's worked on myself, I mean, gosh, since I was 11,

2:02.3

but very diligently for the past 25 years in the personal development community, I still

2:08.9

notice those subconscious programs and patterns. And so much of what's helped me is

2:14.8

nervous system rewiring and that really profound in her child

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