You are listening to the Life Coach School Podcast with Brook Castillo episode number 471.

Welcome to the Life Coach School Podcast, where it's all about real clients, real problems, and real coaching.

And now your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brook Castillo.

Hello, my friends. So happy that you're here.

I'm imagining that some of you have come to this podcast today because of its title, and because maybe you're feeling defeated or you've been defeated.

And you need some help. And that is one thing that I have heard time and time again, and I have actually done time and time again with podcasts,

is search for a title, found it, and gotten the help literally that I needed on the exact topic that I needed from a free podcast.

And so if that is you, welcome. Welcome to the podcast today, where we are talking about the lovely topic of defeat.

And it's a topic I haven't covered before, and I found it really interesting preparing for because it seems to me that so many of the people I love are going through some type of defeat right now.

It's really fascinating.

And I'm going to differentiate between two types of defeat and what we mean by two types of them. But some examples that I have are my son, a couple of my best friends, and myself in some areas.

And the question becomes how do we overcome defeat without quitting?

And so many people are coming to me and like, okay, I'm done with this. I want to move on. I can't do this anymore. I want to quit. I want to start over.

And what prompted me to record this podcast right now is one of my friends just sent me a text and she just said, I just want to start over and move to Mexico.

So is our reason they shouldn't do that question mark? And I replied I said yes because it seems easier to do that right now, but it's not. So don't do that.

And so one of the reasons why it's important to understand defeat and how to utilize it and how to overcome it is so you don't quit too early or you don't quit altogether on something that's really important to you.

So that you don't let a defeat go unutilized defeats can be amazing building blocks for success. So first I want to talk about the definition of defeat, which is overcome by adversity or losing being beat.

And I went to the Google's that's what it said being beat losing defeated overcome by adversity.

So if we want to distinguish as we do with everything in life coaching between the actual circumstance of defeat or being defeated and the thought line and the feeling line of feeling defeated.

And the reason why we need to distinguish between these two things is because it's very important that we understand what we can control and what we can't control and how some defeats we create in our mind and some defeats are really factual.

So the more specific you can be about your defeat the better you are going to feel and I know that might sound strange, but when we are in vagueness and we're describing the feeling of defeat or a defeat that we've had in our life or feeling defeated by life in a very vague way.

We are going to feel so much worse than when we talk about a very specific incident of defeat.

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