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Over It And On With It

EP 469: How to Handle Being Attacked, Bullied, Shamed, Criticized, or Ostracized with Marla

Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.81.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 September 2024

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Marla, a professional singer who bravely shares her experience of being publicly shamed and attacked after performing the national anthem at a major rugby event.

Marla opens up about the intense wave of negative reactions she received from the press and social media, as well as the personal toll it took on her and her daughter. Christine helps Marla process the deep wounds this experience triggered, drawing connections to childhood trauma and longstanding beliefs of unworthiness and fear of rejection.

Through the coaching session, Christine guides Marla to reclaim her voice and inner power, emphasizing the importance of healing from past trauma and addressing limiting beliefs that may have reinforced feelings of shame and isolation. Marla's journey is a powerful example of how, even in the face of overwhelming negativity, we can find strength, regain our self-worth, and take a stand for ourselves.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you ever felt attacked, bullied, or shamed in your personal life or public spaces?
  • Do you struggle with feelings of rejection or fear of judgment?
  • Are there wounds from your childhood that still influence how you handle criticism or rejection today?
  • How do you respond when you're unfairly criticized? Do you retreat or stand up for yourself?

The Guest's Key Insights & AHA's:

  • Marla shares how being publicly shamed reignited deep fears of rejection and criticism that date back to her childhood.
  • Christine helps Marla understand that her experience is not just a random occurrence but a reflection of longstanding limiting beliefs that are ready to be healed.
  • Marla recognizes the importance of expressing her feelings and standing up for herself, not only in the present moment but also for her inner child, who was silenced in the past.
  • The session highlights how reclaiming our voice, even in the face of fear, is a powerful way to shift out of victimhood and into empowerment.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

  • Acknowledge the feelings of hurt and rejection that may arise when you're attacked or criticized, but don't allow them to define you.
  • Revisit any limiting beliefs from your past that may contribute to how you perceive criticism or bullying.
  • Practice giving voice to your feelings and standing up for yourself, even when difficult.
  • Remember that reclaiming your voice and power is a process—allow yourself to move through the emotions and find strength in your vulnerability.

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Upcoming Events:

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0:00.0

This is episode 469, how to handle being attacked, bullied,

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shamed, criticized or ostracized with Marla.

0:10.0

Welcome to Over It and On With It.

0:12.0

I'm your host, Christine Hasler, and for over a decade I've been a life coach, speaker, and author.

0:18.0

Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing.

0:24.0

I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your

0:28.5

own life.

0:29.5

Now let's get on with the episode.

0:39.0

Hi everybody, welcome back to the show. I love this episode because I think that so many of you, so many of us, at times in our life, have been

0:47.1

bullied, have been told we did something wrong, have been teased, have been shamed, have been attacked, judged, rejected, and

0:57.5

oof, it hurts.

1:01.0

One of our biggest core needs as human is the need to belong and when that feels

1:06.6

threatened in any way is terrifying. It creates panic, creates shame I mentioned, sadness, grief, confusion, all the feels.

1:18.9

And it can be really hard to make sense of and really challenging not to go into either victim, you know, everyone else is wrong,

1:29.4

or I did something wrong, right? That self-claim. And Marla was so brave to come on the

1:36.6

show today because she uses her real name and she talks about a specific real

1:41.0

event that happened and was so coachable and lovely and we really get to a

1:46.5

beautiful place with what happened. So enjoy. As you're listening to this

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episode consider, have you ever felt bullied, attacked, ashamed?

1:56.6

Have you had a public profile in any way and felt any kind of online hatred towards you?

2:01.7

Or is it something your children have experienced?

2:04.6

Are you still carrying around wounds of feeling left out, attack, judge, criticized from your

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