EP 457: Dealing with Difficult People with Melissa

Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 26 June 2024

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

In this 2017 re-air, we delve into dealing with difficult people, setting boundaries, and compensatory strategies. Melissa shares her struggles with her in-laws' criticism and lack of support, revealing the challenge of maintaining her self-worth and confidence.

Summary

Melissa moved away from her family and friends to be with her husband. Over time, her in-laws' criticism and lack of support have worn her down. They accuse her of controlling her husband and ruining his life, leading her to question her decisions and struggle with asserting herself. Christine helps Melissa explore her compensatory strategy of people-pleasing and the deeper issues stemming from her past that contribute to her difficulties.

Consider/Ask Yourself

Are there difficult people in your life who hurt you, yet you seek their approval?
Do you struggle to set boundaries and stand up for yourself?
Are you a caretaker who prioritizes others' happiness over your own?

Guest Insights

Melissa moved to be with her husband and now regrets leaving her support system.
Her in-laws criticize her, causing her to doubt herself and feel unconfident.
After seeing how deeply it affects her, her husband has started to stand up for her.
Melissa has a history of being a caretaker and seeks approval from others.

Aha Moments

Melissa realizes her lack of confidence stems from trying to fit in and please others.
Christine highlights that her in-laws' behavior mirrors Melissa's self-doubt.
The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and standing firm in truth.

How to Get Over It and On With It

Acknowledge your emotions and release pent-up feelings through writing or physical activity.
Limit time with unsupportive people and seek out supportive friends.
Practice assertive communication by setting clear, respectful boundaries.
Focus on self-acceptance and authenticity rather than trying to fit in or please others.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	This is episode 457, dealing with difficult people with Melissa.
0:07.0	Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host, Christine Hasler, and for over a decade I've been a life coach, speaker, and author.
0:15.0	Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing.
0:21.0	I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice
0:24.4	as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life.
0:27.6	Now, let's get on with the episode.
0:40.0	Hi, everybody. Hi everybody and welcome back to the show. So today I have a reair for you. I went all the way back into my 2017 archives because I wanted to find a really good one for you and even if
0:48.0	you've been listening to the show since 2017 you probably won't even remember this episode and it's a great one to
0:54.2	re-listen to or listen to for the first time because we talk about dealing with
0:57.8	difficult people boundaries and compensatory strategies. I didn't have the opportunity to record a new podcast this week. I always
1:05.6	like to record them fresh and air them the next week because we were in Utah and
1:10.9	then I flew to Phoenix to film some footage for Mastermind.com and I had to put
1:16.3	a boundary on my own time and say, I just am not going to squeeze this in.
1:21.5	I really loved to have spaciousness around what my life and
1:24.7	particularly this podcast so that the audience and particularly the person I'm
1:29.4	talking to and coaching gets gets the best of me.
1:33.4	So this week we have a rear and again way back from 2017.
1:37.5	So I very seriously doubt you're gonna remember this one
1:40.4	unless you recently did a binge and the topic is so relevant for so many of you.
1:45.0	So this episode is about how a compensatory strategy is an action.
1:51.0	So a compensatory strategy is a term I am made up and it's something that we adopt to feel safe,
1:56.7	validated and worthy and we adopt these compensatory strategies at a very, very young age.
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