EP 371: How to Move Into Acceptance Even If You Don't Like What is Happening with Lindsey
Life Coaching with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler
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🗓️ 19 October 2022
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
This episode is about accepting where we are in life and enjoying it to the fullest. Today's caller, Lindsey, has wanted to find a partner to share her life with for a long time. She has done personal development work but still believes she needs to fix herself before calling in a partner. We work through ways she can trust life, trust divine timing, and enjoy her life.
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When we have hindsight, it is easy to move into acceptance. We look back and consider that something happened for a reason it makes it easier to accept. When we have to accept something, or we choose to accept something that isn't what we want, that is when the real spiritual ninja work comes in.
The constant trying to figure out why — which is something we all do to some degree — we don't have something we want or something in our life isn't working. We pick ourselves apart with a fine-toothed comb trying to find the reason. Because if we find the reason, it gives us control and then we can do something to solve it. It is a pattern of constantly looking.
Acceptance is when we move into the peace of what is. It is when we stop wishing for something to be different or when we have feelings about circumstances not being what we want, we don't bypass them. Resignation is when we give up. Acceptance has relief energy. When we surrender we can be open to something shifting.
When we move into full acceptance of who we are and where we are in our lives, the acceptance keeps us in the energetic of love and shifts what we are broadcasting.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Is there something you want badly and think you will be happier when you get it?
- Are you single and don't want to be single but you can't move into acceptance of it?
- Have you done work to change an issue or circumstance but it isn't shifting and you keep trying?
- Do you believe your life would be better if you had something you don't?
Lindsey's Question:
Lindsey has been single for most of her life and would like guidance on how to call in a partner.
Lindsey's Key Insights and Ahas:
- She has been single for 10+ years but wants to call in a partner.
- She is an adventurous woman in life and work.
- She has a belief that men find her good enough to sleep with but not good enough to date.
- She believes she would be better in a relationship.
- She is sad because she doesn't have a partner.
- She feels she has no control over finding a partner and pities herself.
- She feels looked over by the people in her life.
- She has limiting beliefs about herself.
- She is constantly doing to not think about the uncertainty of life.
- She believes that if she doesn't work hard to get something she won't get it.
- She is incorporating practices to keep herself present.
- She surrenders in water and with music.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- Accept where she is right now.
- Move toward acceptance and let go of wanting something else.
- Make a playlist of songs that make her love her life in the now.
- Stop herself from going down a spiral.
- Stop trying to fix something that isn't broken.
- Trust life and trust divine timing.
Takeaways:
- You can't always get what you want but you can get what you need. If we can move into acceptance of wherever we are or are not, we have more enjoyment and freedom in our life.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is episode 371, how to move into acceptance, even if you don't like what's happening, with Lindsay. |
| 0:08.0 | Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host, Christine Hasler, and for over a decade I've been a life coach, speaker, and author. |
| 0:16.0 | Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing. |
| 0:22.0 | I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life. |
| 0:28.0 | Now let's get on with the episode. |
| 0:35.0 | Hi everybody, welcome back to the show. Once again, thank you for joining me. |
| 0:38.0 | I think a lot of you are going to relate to the subject of this episode, which is moving into acceptance, even when you don't really like what you have to accept. |
| 0:48.0 | Now it's easy to move into acceptance when we have hindsight. |
| 0:52.0 | We can be like, oh, that happened for a reason. I accept it now, or we can accept something that isn't great, but isn't that bad. |
| 0:59.0 | But when we have to accept something, or we get to choose to accept something, that really isn't what we want. |
| 1:07.0 | That's when the real spiritual ninja work comes in. |
| 1:11.0 | In my Master's degree program at the University of Santa Monica, one of the things that we learned is that acceptance is the first law of spirit. |
| 1:20.0 | And it makes so much sense to me because when you are in acceptance, things can transmute, things can move. |
| 1:26.0 | When you're in resistance, well, you're in resistance. |
| 1:30.0 | And I know for me accepting things in my life that weren't exactly what I wanted has been really, really difficult, but it's what eventually shifted things. |
| 1:39.0 | And I don't mean that when I accepted it, I got what I wanted. Sometimes I have. |
| 1:44.0 | But mostly it's when I've accepted things, all the judgment, and the suffering, and the beliefs that it'd be better if X, Y, Z, all that faded away. |
| 1:55.0 | And it gave me so much freedom. |
| 1:57.0 | So I hope that your takeaway from today's episode is that you can't always get what you want, as the Rolling Stone say, but you do get what you need. |
| 2:06.0 | And if you can move into acceptance of wherever you are or are not in your life, you're going to have so much more freedom and so much more enjoyment of your life. |
| 2:15.0 | When we're focused on the things we don't have, then we don't really enjoy the things that we do have. |
| 2:20.0 | So as you're listening to this episode, consider, is there something you want really, really, really, really bad? And you think, oh, if only I had this thing, then I'd be so much happier. |
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