Ep #368: Giving Yourself Permission to Feel Negatively
The Stop Binge Eating Podcast
Kirstin Sarfde
4.8 • 559 Ratings
🗓️ 19 August 2025
⏱️ 9 minutes
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Summary
We tend to think that we want feel good, happy, and comfortable all the time. But really, we don't. Sometimes, in certain circumstances, we WANT to feel angry, sad, or disappointed. But if you're someone who doesn't allow yourself to feel negatively, or is afraid to feel negatively, then you might experience a problem. You want to feel sad but, you don't. So what do you do? That's what I'm talking about in this episode.
If you usually eat when you feel negative emotions, then give this episode a listen. Feeling good or eating aren't your only options. I'm going to help you get on board with allowing yourself to feel those negative emotions when you want to...and sometimes, you will want to.
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to the Stop Binge Eating Podcast with Kirsten Sarty, episode number 368. |
| 0:06.5 | Welcome to the Stop Binge Eating Podcast. It's time for you to end your food obsession and begin |
| 0:11.9 | feeling confident and in control around food. You are absolutely capable of eliminating |
| 0:17.5 | binge eating from your life. And I'm going to show you how by giving you simple |
| 0:21.3 | tools and insights that you can apply in your own life. I'm your host, Kirsten Sarfdy. Now let's get to it. |
| 0:30.5 | Hi, I bet most people would say that they want to feel good, comfortable, and happy all the time. |
| 0:39.2 | This can be a reason for so many people for why they binge or overeat. They're using food to try and feel better than they are |
| 0:45.1 | and try to feel good all the time because feeling good, comfortable, and happy sounds so much |
| 0:50.6 | better than feeling bad, uncomfortable, or negative, right? Now, if you've listened to |
| 0:55.4 | any of my episodes about feeling emotions, I've talked a lot about how you can feel better without |
| 1:01.1 | eating food. I actually did an episode about it recently, number 359, how to feel better without |
| 1:06.2 | eating food, if you'd like to give it a listen. But what about those times when you actually don't want to |
| 1:13.5 | feel good in certain circumstances? What about when something happens and you think that the negative |
| 1:21.1 | emotion you're feeling is valid and appropriate? Or maybe you just don't want to do the work |
| 1:27.3 | to change how you're feeling. Maybe you just do the work to change how you're feeling. |
| 1:28.9 | Maybe you just want to let yourself feel how you're feeling for a bit. Or maybe you're just not |
| 1:34.2 | ready to change how you're feeling. Then what? You might then just eat food to feel better |
| 1:40.2 | temporarily and distract yourself from the emotion you're feeling. Because at that point, |
| 1:44.6 | what options do you have? You don't want to change how you feel. You don't want to feel good |
| 1:49.0 | in the circumstance that you're in. So what can you do? Well, you can eat to ignore it for a bit, |
| 1:56.4 | or you can just feel how you're feeling. I, of course, recommend the second option. |
| 2:02.6 | Sometimes when we really take an honest look at certain circumstances or a circumstance we're in, |
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