Ep. 339 - How to stop spiraling about your ex and your future
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 4 May 2026
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
If your brain won't shut off, replaying your ex, fast-forwarding into worst-case scenarios about your future, and pulling you out of the life right in front of you, this episode is going to feel very real. You'll hear what's actually driving those late-night spirals and why trying to "manage your thoughts" or stay busy hasn't worked the way you hoped. Instead of more surface-level advice, this episode breaks down a clear, structured approach that targets the root of the problem. So you're not just coping with the spiral, you're removing what's creating it in the first place. If you're tired of overthinking, checking, looping, and feeling like your future depends on your ex, this will give you a completely different way to approach it and a path that actually moves you out of it.
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 339. |
| 0:05.7 | How to Stop Spiraling about your ex and your future. |
| 0:20.2 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:26.5 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. |
| 0:28.8 | Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:45.5 | Hello, hello, beautiful brave hearts. How is everyone doing? I want to talk about spiraling slash overthinking today and I thought, why not start with a personal story about this? |
| 0:52.2 | This is a story I'm really not proud of. It was somewhere, I honestly |
| 0:57.5 | don't remember the timing, but I was definitely well into my new relationship, which is |
| 1:03.7 | very embarrassing to talk about, right? I was in a good relationship too. This man, |
| 1:09.7 | he was amazing. |
| 1:12.3 | He really showed up for me. |
| 1:18.4 | He was a great partner, but it was after my big breakup and I hadn't yet truly found the solution to getting over an ex. |
| 1:20.5 | And I remember lying in bed next to him at like 2 a.m. |
| 1:24.4 | And I was just wide awake doom spiraling. Do any of you do this? And it wasn't about the man |
| 1:34.3 | that I was literally laying next to you, who was amazing. It was about my ex and my future. I was |
| 1:42.6 | running through every possible version of my future that I could think of. What if my ex and my future. I was running through every possible version of my future that I could think of. |
| 1:47.1 | What if my ex was happier with this new person than he ever was with me? What if the life I thought |
| 1:53.7 | I was going to have was just not going to happen, right? That house, the family, the future that I had |
| 2:00.0 | mapped out. In every smallest detail what if |
| 2:03.7 | none of that was possible without my ex and my new relationship was right there in front of me |
| 2:10.2 | and i just could not stop living in a future that centered around this man who had already left |
| 2:16.7 | which was so not fair to the other person, |
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