then, yeah, it might disappear on the surface, but the same spirit will be around on a 16-year-old

or a 26-year-old that'll come out in a different way.

Hey, guys, welcome back to you, Five-Minute Fatherhood. So I don't know if you have read the book,

Jeff, the Raising Passionate. I think it's called Raising Passionate Followers of Jesus. Jesus followers. Yeah, Jesus followers.

Alyssa loves that book. It's so good. Phil and Diane Comer. They raised John Mark Homer, which means that they can't be all that bad.

Lots of amazing tips in that book. And they had one that I just loved. And I think I've heard this before, but it really reminded me of, I think, something that a lot of dad's need is motivation to be proactive in training your kids. And they have this basic rule, which they say, ask yourself, what will this behavior look like in 10 years? In other words, your kids are whining or your kids are... Because a lot of times,

I think that the prevailing culture a lot of times says, look, they'll grow out of it, just kind of

deal with it. Kids will be kids. And so there's a real tension between that and, oh, wow,

I've just discovered a really important, I guess, topic or area to train in. And so their way of

kind of thinking through that is to imagine, like, does this get worse over time? How have you

guys thought about that? And what do you think of this idea of like, like, like think about watch kind of issues that are sort of

popping up in your kids and imagining what that could look like if it kind of was allowed to

continue yeah I think that's solid because I think the like you said the prevailing cultural

norm is that oh it'll just just hold on and it'll go away. Now, there's some stuff that I think

actually does, which is really kind of, um, if you stay faithful, then like the brain

psychology and chemistry changes and you, you know, you get through these seasons of just

stay faithful to your kind of your standards and values as a family. But in general, yeah,

like with behavior type stuff, what happens is, um, you might, how do I say this?

Like the behavior might disappear, but the spirit and attitude won't. Yeah. Right. So the spirit

and attitude of a behavior, if you don't challenge it, you know, uh, call it to account or encourage it or,

you know, I mean, whatever, maybe it's a hard or a soft thing, whatever it is,

um, or, you know, uh, you know, heal it, you know, get it, whatever it is, then yeah, it might disappear on the surface, but the same spirit will be around in a 16 year old, or a 26 year old that'll come out in a different way. So I think think about it like that, not that necessarily like, oh, your kid has tantrums now.

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