Ep. 331 - The hidden cost of saying "it's fine" after a breakup

How to Get Over Your Ex

Dorothy AB Johnson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 577 Ratings

🗓️ 9 March 2026

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

If you've ever caught yourself saying "it's fine" about something that clearly isn't, this episode is going to hit. Maybe it's staying in contact with your ex because it's "temporary." Maybe it's continuing to sleep with them, keep their hoodie, answer their late-night texts, or stay in a living situation that drains you because "it won't be forever." On the surface, it feels mature. Low drama. Logical. But underneath? It's costing you energy, confidence, and momentum toward your Bigger & Better Life. In this episode, we unpack why "it's fine" is often just settling in disguise and how that mindset quietly keeps you from feeling lit up right now. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything: becoming open to micro upgrades. The small, immediate decisions that elevate your present moment instead of waiting for some future version of your life to finally feel good. If you're tired of surviving the in-between and ready to stop postponing your own joy, this conversation will challenge you, and show you what's actually possible starting today.

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0:00.0	You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 331, the hidden cost of saying it's fine after a breakup.
0:18.7	Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.
0:24.9	I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.
0:35.2	Hello, hello, beautiful friends. I hope you're doing well. I am so excited to be here with you
0:41.9	today. This Sunday, we actually had a Get Over Your X program call, coaching call. It was super fun.
0:49.0	I love a good weekend like morning coffee, sitting down, coaching. It's literally one of my favorites. And honestly,
0:57.6	on this call, so many people were celebrating. It was really fun. We had one person celebrating
1:02.3	that they had the get over your ex moment. You know how I always talk about. It takes a moment.
1:10.0	It doesn't take time to get over your ex.
1:11.4	You can actually get over your ex in a moment.
1:13.0	And she had it.
1:15.1	And it was really cool to just experience and like witness her experience of that moment.
1:22.4	She didn't have that moment on the call, but it was like she was describing that moment.
1:31.0	And it was just, it's so fun to witness their surprise and delight when they finally realized like truly it does happen in a moment and when
1:36.9	you have that moment it feels so good um and honestly we've had a really fun weekend overall. We had that call on Sunday. And then the day before that, I actually had a Get Over Your X graduate get engaged. And I got to see all of that over Instagram, which was amazing. I cried. And then the day before that, which was Friday, we had a workshop. I had
2:04.1	conducted a workshop inside of Get Over Your X program where we talked about what to do when you're
2:09.8	missing your ex and how to stop missing that person. And what was really cool about that is I had
2:16.4	a different client talk about her experience of
2:20.6	feeling neutral and indifferent when she had to meet up with her ex to go over the splitting
2:26.8	of assets.
2:27.8	She's going through divorce.
2:29.2	And up until, you know, a couple weeks ago, she was like crying every time she was with him,
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