You are listening to the Life Coach School Podcast with Brook Castillo episode number 331.

Welcome to the Life Coach School Podcast, where it's all about real clients, real problems, and real coaching.

And now your host, Master Coaching Structor, Brook Castillo.

Welcome to the podcast, my friends. Are you ready for this one?

I have been coaching so many of you on this in scholars.

This has been a topic that is coming up over and over again, and people are struggling with it, but also having life altering changes when they get it.

I did a podcast, I think it was several weeks ago now called All or Nothing Thinking, that is very similar to some of the concepts I'm going to talk about today.

But I wanted to talk about it kind of from a different angle, so that you can apply it not just to your thinking, but also to your relationship with yourself and your relationships with other people.

When we think about the world, we are taught to think that things are good or things are bad.

Okay, there are the good guys and the bad guys. There's good things and there's bad things. Okay, and much of what we are taught and much of what the messaging is that we get is that the goal is to get rid of all the bad.

The goal is for the good guys to defeat and kill all the bad guys and then the good guys will live happily ever after.

These are the messages we get. This is what we're taught. And it's a very kind of juvenile way to look at the world and yet most of us, including me, of course, think about the world in this way.

We have this kind of utopian idea of happily ever after we're going to get to the place where there's only good things and good people and goodness left.

And most importantly, so many of you are trying to be 100% good and virtuous.

And you have no tolerance for any part of you that isn't because you have made the goal perfection.

You've made the goal a perfect world to be a perfect world and you've made the goal to be a perfect person.

Many of you don't even realize that you're doing this.

So I want to help you by sharing how I deal with this in my own self.

And it's really worked in a way that has changed my life so tremendously that I think it will be valuable for many of you to hear.

You've already heard me say it's really important to understand that human beings are not nor will they ever be perfect.

In the way that they won't have any flaws or won't have anything wrong with them.

Okay. Now you can say they're perfect in their imperfection, but most of you aren't thinking about it that way.

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