Nice guys and people pleasers will always finish last, always.

And until they start to bring their energy back, until they start to be in their own frame,

once they do that, everything changes in this video, I'm going to show you how to stop being a people pleaser, a nice guy,

or that kind of energy, and how to start being in your frame so that you can actually finish first.

The thing with being nice is that being nice is connected to a form of manipulation.

It is manipulative to be nice, it is manipulative to be a people pleaser.

Because what is happening is when we are being nice, what we are wanting, is we are wanting someone else's validation,

or wanting someone else's approval, or wanting someone else to not feel tension, because being a nice guy and a people pleaser, normally,

what I've noticed is that in childhood, there was a lot of tension, there was a lot of energy there that was uncomfortable,

so then there was a choice that was made, there was a meaning that was made that said, I'm not going to cause other people to feel tension.

I don't want to feel tension, so therefore I'm going to be nice.

Now, the thing with this is being nice is inauthentic.

Being nice is, and there is a difference by the way, it would be nice and being compassionate.

Nice is normally conditional, and what happens a lot of times with nice people is they end up storing in a lot of energy,

and being kind of passive aggressive, where they are almost afraid to show and share their emotions,

because there's a level of shame there that says that I'm not worthy to feel this way, to have my own boundaries or to express myself.

So there's this kind of repressive energy that's being held down, so instead let's be nice.

But when it comes down to it, being compassionate is where you are being compassionate because it's who you are.

It's not tied, even if someone's being rude to you or mean to you, you're being that way because it's who you are,

whereas the nicest is a form of manipulation.

So I've seen this by the way, and just to give this basis, if you haven't heard my videos before,

I've been through the whole process of transforming and letting go of the people pleasing mentality,

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