Ep. 312 - How to handle breakup triggers without losing all your progress

How to Get Over Your Ex

Dorothy AB Johnson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 577 Ratings

🗓️ 27 October 2025

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

You've done the work. You've cried, journaled, coached yourself through the heartbreak and then one text, one trigger, one spiral later, it feels like all your progress vanished. In this episode, Dorothy shows you why that's not true. She breaks down the real reason those moments don't erase your healing, the biology behind why your brain still reacts that way, and the three simple steps to close the gap between who you were in that moment and who you're becoming. If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "I should be further along than this," this episode will help you calm the shame, find your footing, and remember: all your healing still counts.

The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/

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0:00.0	You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 312.
0:04.9	How to handle breakup triggers without losing all of your progress.
0:26.8	Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.
0:29.0	I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy.
0:32.5	Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.
0:57.6	Hello, hello, beautiful brave hearts. Welcome, welcome, welcome. I am so excited to have you here. I hope you're having a wonderful, beautiful day. Even if you are in the thick of heartbreak, I love you, I see you. You are supported. You are loved. You matter in this world. So let's chat, let's get started. I want to talk all about how all of the healing you've ever done matters, okay? I coach a lot of
1:07.7	people. I've been doing this for a very long time.
1:11.4	And a common pattern or thing that happens over and over, I see this with all my brave hearts,
1:18.3	is that I see it again and again throughout the history of my coaching.
1:22.0	I see my clients do so much healing, so much progress.
1:26.5	They're feeling great about themselves. They
1:28.3	reduce desire and attachment for their ex. They aren't thinking about their ex or worrying
1:33.8	about the future. And sometimes they're even dating and really enjoying themselves.
1:38.8	And then something happens. Like a text comes in, they get an email, or perhaps they have like a conversation with a mutual
1:46.3	friend that quote unquote triggers them. Do I say quote triggers unquote? I don't know how to say
1:54.4	that. But something that triggers them and then all of a sudden they find themselves ruminating
1:59.6	again or spending hours fixated on it,
2:03.8	searching the social media platforms, worrying again.
2:07.2	And they think to themselves, I'm not as healed as I thought I was or I'm not as good as I thought I was.
2:14.5	Now, this specific situation or scenario happened to one of my brave hearts
2:20.1	inside of the get over your ex program last week. She was doing like very great. She was about like
2:25.1	I think in week eight of the program. She and honestly she had overcome so much. It wasn't just about
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