what it means to grow and mature into Christ, it really hinges on speaking the truth and love.

All right, guys, welcome back to Five Minute Fatherhood. So one of the things that happens, of course,

in families is conflict. And every person has a little bit different approach to conflict, a little bit

different, I would say skill set when it comes to conflict. Jeff's got a good skill set.

Jeff doesn't mind conflict. He's like, bring it on. Let's have it out. I love it. My skill

set's a little bit weaker, I would say. Really, one of the things I struggle with a lot

is that when I, when I, when I sense a conflict needs to happen, like, oh gosh, like we got to have,

we got to have a conversation. I don't think we're going to agree. Like my first reaction to that,

the feeling I have my gut is fear, fear that this will actually damage the relationship. By bringing up this topic,

by having this conversation, it's not going to go well. Things are going to be better on the

other side of it. And this has been something I've had to really work through. And I think,

you guys, I think the proper sort of stance when it comes to

conflict or the need to have a hard conversation with your spouse or with one of your kids

or maybe even with your parents or something is there's got to be deep in your soul or your gut

in approaching these, a feeling of hope. like i think things can be better and that

helps you not give way to anger not give in to fear to say hey part a normal part of family life is

conflict and actually conflict is important it's important to learn to be good at it. It is a skill.

And so one of the things, like, for example, I struggle with a lot is that I will avoid conflict.

And then when I'm forced into it, I'll often do something in the course of those conflicting

conversations that sort of sets a bad tone,

gives way to anger, like does something that will less than the likelihood that it'll have a good

outcome. And then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, right? Because now it's something,

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