Ep. 285 - The hidden freedom in letting go: Why we cling to people who don't choose us
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 7 April 2025
⏱️ 17 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I reveal the counterintuitive truth about why letting go feels impossible (even when holding on is blocking everything you want), and the unexpected place where freedom is actually hiding. If you've been feeling like you know exactly what you need to do to move on from your ex but haven't been able to actually "do it", it's a must listen.
You'll discover a simple 3-step mental shift that finally breaks the cycle of attachment… without the struggle you've experienced so far. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear path to stop caring so much about your ex and start channeling that energy into building the bigger, better life that's waiting for you. Most importantly, you'll see how letting go isn't about losing something, it's about creating the exact runway needed for the love and life you truly want to finally arrive.
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your X, episode number 285, the hidden freedom in letting go, why we cling to people who don't choose us. |
| 0:27.2 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:29.5 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. |
| 0:32.9 | Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. Hello, hello, my beautiful brave hearts. |
| 0:40.1 | Today we're talking about something that has been heavy on my heart lately. |
| 0:44.2 | I want to talk about the hidden freedom that comes with letting go and releasing. |
| 0:49.2 | And why do we cling so desperately to people who don't choose us? |
| 0:56.0 | And I had this realization recently that really just stopped me in my tracks. |
| 1:00.0 | I just have to share it with you. |
| 1:01.0 | I caught myself doing something in my own life that made me think like, holy shit, this is exactly |
| 1:09.0 | what happens when we can't let go of our exes. And I want to |
| 1:13.3 | tell you what happened. So I had been holding on to this house. If you've been listening to the podcast, |
| 1:18.6 | you know a little bit about this already. But I had two properties and like one of the two |
| 1:25.3 | properties I own. And I kept kept telling myself I shouldn't sell it |
| 1:29.9 | meanwhile I'm literally trying to create something very specific I can't share it here but I'm |
| 1:37.0 | literally trying to create overflow in my life and selling this home would actually create that |
| 1:42.5 | overflow that's needed and I was on this walk voice memoing with my coach and I was like, oh my gosh, Dorothy, |
| 1:52.0 | I cannot be mad that I don't currently have the overflow if I'm not willing to make the choices and decisions that create said overflow. |
| 2:06.1 | Like I'm in the middle. I'm in the in between right now in regards to where I am and where I |
| 2:12.9 | want to go, like where I started and where I'm trying to go. I'm in the middle. And so I'm going from where I was |
| 2:20.9 | to where I want to be, which is overflow. And to get there, I have to start making decisions that |
| 2:27.6 | create overflow. It just seems so obvious when I say out loud, right? But my brave hearts. Now, this is exactly what |
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