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The James Altucher Show

Ep. 285 - Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider: How to Get the Relationship You Deserve... Advice from "The Rules" Authors

The James Altucher Show

James Altucher

Education, Business

4.6 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 30 November 2017

⏱️ 71 minutes

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Summary

I sat down with two women the other day. And I can't decide whether they've completely ruined my life or helped me. I decided they were going to help me decide before this podcast was over. Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider are the authors of the classic book, "The Rules". I know this book inside and out. Every woman I ever dated back in the 90's and early 00's read "The Rules" AND were following them. I felt like I was talking to them on behalf of every single person I've ever dated. (And every man who's ever been frustrated by a woman they've dated.) "The Rules" tell women how to date and WHO to date. But more than that, it teaches you to have self respect. How to bring the center of gravity back to yourself. And stop outsourcing your self-esteem to some other human or some idea of being with that human. I've been married twice. I told Ellen and Sherrie about both of my marriages, but I kept something things private, too. I told them I'm going to give their books to my daughters. I want them to read it. "But I don't know if I want my future girlfriend to read it," I said. Maybe that's because I'm a little lost. And I want her (whoever she is) to be a little lost with me. Make sure to read the full show notes here: https://jamesaltucher.com/2017/11/ellen-fein-sherrie-schneider/  And don't forget to subscribe to "The James Altucher Show" on Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts! ------------What do YOU think of the show? Head to JamesAltucherShow.com/listeners and fill out a short survey that will help us better tailor the podcast to our audience!Are you interested in getting direct answers from James about your question on a podcast? Go to JamesAltucherShow.com/AskAltucher and send in your questions to be answered on the air!------------Visit Notepd.com to read our idea lists & sign up to create your own!My new book, Skip the Line, is out! Make sure you get a copy wherever books are sold!Join the You Should Run for President 2.0 Facebook Group, where we discuss why you should run for President.I write about all my podcasts! Check out the full post and learn what I learned at jamesaltuchershow.com------------Thank you so much for listening! If you like this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to "The James Altucher Show" wherever you get your podcasts: Apple PodcastsiHeart RadioSpotifyFollow me on social media:YouTubeTwitterFacebookLinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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0:00.0

This isn't your average business podcast and he's not your average host.

0:06.4

This is the James Altiger Show on the Choose Yourself Network.

0:10.4

Today on the James Altiger Show.

0:15.0

Has there ever been anything like you really wanted, I'm sure there is.

0:18.0

Yes.

0:19.0

And when you found out you couldn't get it, did you want it just a little bit more?

0:22.0

Yeah, of course.

0:23.0

So that's what we're selling.

0:24.0

I really think the bottom line with your rules is, is self-respect.

0:29.0

Take time for yourself.

0:31.0

Build yourself up.

0:33.0

I'm going to quote Warren Buffett here.

0:35.0

He once said, the best way to be loved is to be lovable.

0:38.0

I think the real secret to what you two have done with the rules and with all the follow-up books

0:44.0

is to really say, don't outsource your self-esteem.

0:48.0

And here are some guidelines.

0:50.0

Yes.

0:51.0

So I'm sitting here with two lovely women who have, I can't decide ladies whether you've

1:04.0

completely ruined my life or helped me.

1:07.0

So you're going to help me decide this before the end.

1:09.0

But anyway, Ellen Fine and Sherry Schneider, authors of the classic book, The Rules.

1:18.0

Some people don't, I know this book inside and out because every woman I ever dated back in the 90s

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