This call is about worst-case scenario thinking. Today's caller, Kate, is always waiting for the other shoe to drop because of chaos in her childhood. She has never felt safe. If you find yourself at a point where life is smooth and good but you keep waiting for something to happen and then judge yourself for having negative thoughts, this show will offer you solid guidance.

 

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Often, when people are in personal development, they learn from their suffering. There is an unconscious belief that they learn and grow from challenge or loss. But, while those things can be awakenings to growth, we must choose to learn and grow. We don't need loss and hardship to motivate us, inspire us to grow, or evolve our souls.

 

Often, when we are worried the other shoe is going to drop, the fears coming up are our inner child trying to communicate with us. The body and emotions are often the language of the inner child, of our subconscious mind. So, pay attention to those, and instead of trying to get rid of them, ask them what they need.

 

It is not our thoughts that attract things to us. It is our feelings and our frequency. Gratitude is a great frequency to move us out of anxiety or obsessive thinking. Moving into gratitude and truly feeling it is so much better than distraction.

 

If you have fears of manifesting your bad thoughts, remember that the percentage of time you spend in the present and in gratitude is probably greater than the percentage of time you spend worrying. Worrying just feels more intense because it is intense and uncomfortable when you do it. Take comfort that it will be okay.

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Did you have a childhood where you couldn't really relax, there was a lot of uncertainty, or everything was going fine and then a shoe dropped and you find yourself constantly waiting for the other one to drop?
• Have you done a lot of work on yourself? Are things going really well but you feel you can't trust it?
• Do you fear that your fear about things going badly will manifest bad things?
• Do you feel you have a deep connection to your inner child and they feel safe?

 

Kate's Question:

Kate would like guidance around why, when things are going well, she fears something is going to go wrong.

 

Kate's Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is at a great place in her life.
• She often expects the worst.
• She fears she is going to sabotage herself.
• She has done personal development work.
• She spends more time in fear than joy.
• Her father was unpredictable and angry.
• Her sister was often sick.
• She didn't feel safe as a child.
• She wants to be more spontaneous.
• She uses distraction as a coping strategy.
• She believed challenges were a path to growth.
• She does not need to suffer to learn and grow.
• She will pay attention to the voice of her inner child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Reassure her inner child and put one hand on her belly and one on her heart and say "I am safe" when she has fear about something going wrong.
• Journal about how learning through challenge is over.
• Move into acceptance, soothe her inner child, and make a conscious decision to choose gratitude.

 

Takeaways For You:

• Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.
• Practice the 3-step process. Acceptance, reassurance of safety, and gratitude.
• Vow that you can evolve through choice, not challenge.

 

Resources:

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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