This is a paid advertisement from Better Help. So, Jenny, relationships, okay? I'm just going to say it. Fair. Relationships. We have both been in long-term

relationships for a very long time. Very, very, very long time. I'm not sure how we've done it. It's been a bit touch and go.

I have to admit, of course it's been touch and go. It's been touch and go for everybody.

And sometimes he annoys the hell out of me. But actually, there are...

You see how quiet I'm keeping just in case he listens.

Very sensibly. Very sensibly. But it's not easy. And sometimes I think you have to look for

the upsides, don't you?

Yeah. And I think a positive at the moment would be looking for the green flags in a relationship.

I think we're often warned about red flags. Look out for the red flags, warning signs, being in the wrong relationship.

You know, but I think we also have to be aware of the green flags, behaviours from partners or friends that make you feel good.

They could just be really small things. I mean this is, I instantly fell for Jeff when he pulled out a red and white spotted handkerchief and it might be very silly, but I was 22 and my father always had red and white spotted handkerchief and it might be very silly but I was 22

and my father always had red and white spotted handkerchiefs and it could have been a red

flag literally but I chose to look at it as a green flag as yes oh this is a nice man with a

nice handkerchief I mean mean, that might sound ridiculous.

No, it doesn't. I trusted that instinct.

And so far, it's, you know, it's done me well.

Yep.

But it sort of meant reliability for you, didn't it?

It did.

Yes.

And I absolutely Mike, funny enough, Mike sort of pressed the same kind of green flag things with me in that he's, you know, he was always the grown up and he still is.

You know, if I'm in a mess with something, he'll always, you know, he'll usually sort me out.

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