Really what the Sabbath is, it's a day in which you just say, all of my work is never going to measure up to what it should.

And that's okay.

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In our Facebook group, we had a dad who just posted this.

I felt this is really vulnerable

and also something that I know that all of us as dad struggle with. How do you deal with shame as a father?

And the way he put it was, do you ever feel guilt or shame because you feel like you don't measure

up to what you think you should measure up to? And so he just kind of dropped that in our Facebook group and had a

really good conversation going on between the dads about how we deal with this. It's so important

to be honest and clear about, yeah, this is a huge part of life as human beings. Every single one

of our roles or responsibilities as human beings,

we're going to fall short. And we're going to have this experience of shame that goes all the way

back to the garden. But I think when it comes to fatherhood, it can be especially intense,

especially for dads who really want to do well for their families. And so they might just feel, oh, you know, my family gets me.

Because one of the things that's really true about family is that you get, there's one dad,

there's one mom.

You know, you generally, you feel like you're, whatever these kids are experiencing,

whatever this family is experiencing, it's so constrained by who you are and what you're whatever these kids are experiencing, whatever this family is experiencing, it's so constrained by by who you are and what you're doing.

And so you could just heap on yourself a lot of that guilt and shame.

And I really, yeah, I wanted to kind of talk this with you, Jeff, because I think,

I think that's a, like I said, universal experience.

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