Hey guys. Welcome to Not Another Anxiety Show. I'm your host, Kelly Walker, and today it's just me sharing an interesting tidbit about some recent research regarding problem

solving. So when we're struggling with an issue, a challenge, or a problem at work, at home,

or in our relationships, you know, any of the areas that are most important to us, it's so enticing

to jump into analyzing and solving mode.

That is what most of us do who feel like there's a problem. But research has found that a far

more effective strategy for problem solving is to slow down and reframe by asking two questions.

One, what really is the problem?

And two, is there a different way to look at the problem?

So let me gladly share an example.

Admittedly, sometimes I get annoyed at my husband

and his tendency towards, let's call it, carelessness.

So what is the problem here when I'm annoyed with him?

Well, at first glance, it feels like he's definitely the problem.

However, I've come to notice that his carelessness of spilling crap everywhere doesn't always

bother me. Usually when I'm annoyed by his greasy prints on the microwave or spilled water

down the front of the cabinets, it's because I'm feeling edgy, stressed, or tight for time.

So usually at second glance, the problem is me feeling stressed or overwhelmed. So is there a different way to look at this problem? What other angles

can I take here? You know, apart from assuming my husband is the problem. Well, I could notice that

I'm feeling stressed and tired. I could expand further and notice that there just isn't enough time in

the morning to clean up after making my kids breakfast before having to get to work. And there isn't enough time in the morning because, you know,

we've been getting to bed a little later watching too much British breaking show

and therefore waking up a little later.

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