I'm Jody Moore and this is Better Than Happy Episode 266, controlling versus holding accountable.

Welcome to Better Than Happy. I'm your host Jody Moore. I'm a mother to four children.

I'm a huge Taylor Swift fan and I'm a master certified life coach. I'm here to teach you how to

manage your brain and manage your emotions so that you can create a life that's even better than

happy. Are you ready? Let's go. Hey everyone, thanks so much for being here today. I am so appreciative

that you're tuning in, that you're applying what you're learning here, to better yourself,

in your life, and all the people around you. And I'm excited to teach you about controlling versus

holding accountable. This is a topic that I coach quite a bit on because my clients understand

the frustration that we create for ourselves when we try to control other people. They are

pretty quick to embrace the idea that of course we can't control other people and that when we try

to, we just frustrate ourselves and we distance ourselves and it's really just not useful.

On the other hand, many of my clients are mothers and some fathers. They ask me, well,

how do I know if I'm trying to control my child or if I'm just doing what I want to do as a good

parent, which is to hold them accountable to things that I think will serve them or that I expect.

And it's a really good question and so I want to dive into it today. Now, before we dive into it,

I want to mention that I know that you're struggling. I know that you're stressed and here's why.

I want to give you a little story or metaphor to demonstrate what's happening for many of us.

I jog a little bit. I'm a jogger. I used to consider myself a runner, but now I would have to say I'm a

jogger. And sometimes I only jog a mile. That's all I have the energy for. That's all I have the time

for. That's all I can get myself to do. I just take what I can get. I run a mile. Other days, I jog

between four and five miles. And what I've noticed is depending on what I've decided to do for the day,

the last couple of blocks or the last, you know, little bit of my run depending on if I'm on a treadmill

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