What's up guys? Welcome to another five-minute fatherhood. So how do you handle having a mean

son or a firstborn who's really rough on the family? We had a great question from David in our

Five Minute Fatherhood group. He said, I would like some advice on a son who was constantly mean

with their siblings.

How do you reach the heart to help them change and realize that how they're acting is going to make them end up with no relationships when they are older?

So, David, it's a great question.

This is a huge thing to address, particularly when they're the oldest and if they're mean with their younger siblings.

This is something that is really important to nip in the bud so there's a couple of things that I find really important to do when one of your kids is just sort of creating

that kind of mean and rude culture so I love what you said the first time like

reaching their heart yeah that. That is huge.

And so it's really important that they respect you, that when, that you cultivated a place in which when your voice, that's something that they really respect.

We talk a lot about that in the skill of father, just different ways of like, of elevating

the sort of the weight of your voice

in the ears of your children. But a big part of that process is to make sure that that you are

keeping your word and that when you're disciplining your children, that you create this sort of

large gap between being the fun dad and being the coach and sort of disciplinary dad.

Sometimes you have to dial up both of those at the same time.

We talk through how that really increases the volume and the heaviness or weight of your voice

critical, especially with the son who is like really aggressive with their siblings or with

your wife.

We have a whole talk we did about what do you do when your

son tries over over through your wife. Yeah. Similar similar struggle. Another thing that I think is

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