EP 240: Reader Question - How can I not feel guilty for all the time I've spent trying to fix myself?

This Naked Mind Podcast

Annie Grace

Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 28 December 2019

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

Guilt … it’s such a common feeling. What if we didn’t try to fix ourselves? What if we continued to let ourselves down and maintained a hold on things that no longer serve us? Annie shares her perspective on guilt and how the time we spend on ourselves benefits everyone around us.

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0:00.0	This is Annie Grace and you're listening to this naked mind podcast where without judgment,
0:16.0	pain or rules, we explore the role of alcohol in our lives and culture.
0:20.2	Hi, this is Annie Grace, author of this naked mind and today I am answering readers questions.
0:32.0	I have an amazing question from Sue. Sue says, I have had my issues with alcohol in food too.
0:37.3	I'm two and a half months alcohol free. Congratulations. See, that's awesome.
0:41.8	Thanks in a large part to this naked mind. However, I was just thinking about all the time I've
0:46.2	spent over the years online watching television and reading self-help books to provide
0:50.9	with solutions to my eating and drinking problems. I was successful many times for the short term,
0:56.0	but never permanently. My question to you for a future podcast would be how do we rationalize all the
1:02.1	time we spend trying to fix ourselves? When I feel like all that time could have been put to
1:07.3	better use with family, physical activity, a better job or socializing. I'm feeling guilty and I
1:12.4	guess I'm feeling I could have tried harder long ago so I wouldn't be in this mess for so long.
1:16.7	I'm 60 years old. I've spent period of my life isolating myself from the world and accomplishing very
1:21.3	little. I know it's not too late for me and I'm really ready now to begin again, but how do I do that
1:27.6	guilt-free? So, Sue, a few things about this. First of all, I don't believe that we should ever look
1:35.7	at time invested in ourselves as a mistake. In fact, I believe that we should look at almost nothing
1:42.0	in our entire lives as a mistake, especially when you become aware of what's going on with you.
1:48.4	So, if you think for me about the moment when I first became aware that I needed to change my
1:54.0	drinking, it was a very, very painful moment for me. It was a moment where I was like, oh my gosh,
2:00.4	my whole world feels like it's crashing down. I don't know why I am anymore. I feel like I've
2:04.7	blacked myself down. I feel like I've let my husband down. I felt very, very uncomfortable and very
2:09.0	painful. And in that moment, I felt a huge amount of guilt and regret. But now, if you fast forward
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