is that if we don't really pause and take a minute to understand or grieve what we've lost,

then oftentimes it's very difficult to diagnose why we feel the way we feel or why certain things are broken the way they're broken.

What's up guys? Welcome to another five-minute fatherhood. So we had a great conversation erupt in our Facebook group for Five Minute Fatherhood. If you're not in there, go check it out. But the conversation was around an article written by Trevin Wax, and it says, a man's place is in the home. And he says, well, modern couples fight about who gets to spend more time at work, it's worth considering where we came from and what we may have lost.

And so as we dove into this article and we started to talk through a lot of the different nuances, this is one of the things that really sort of stood out to me.

He says, he wrote, we may never be able to return in mass to the farms or workshops, but there is value to be had merely in mourning for what has been lost.

Which process reminds us of what we might yet be?

A man working his own fields was his own master, the sweat of whose brows was poured out directly, visibly in creating a home.

His partner was not an impersonal investor, but flesh of his flesh and bone of his bone,

and the subordinates alongside whom he toiled were not querulous strangers, but his own children,

fruit of his loins. This is what has been lost in the two-century-long transformation of house

and home into house as way station, that luxurious modern repository for food, abed, and

distraction, barely inhabited by a loosely knit community of transience for the sake of which

we shoulder a lifetime's servitude to debt.

A man who has forgotten the hearth has forgotten his heart.

He is a man adrift at sea, and there is no telling upon what alien shore he may be washed up,

or to what mischief he may then direct his powers.

Man, he's a good writer.

This is an intense essay, and it really is sort of a lament about what have we lost.

And one of the things I love about this conversation, like Trevin is pointing out,

is that if we don't really pause and take a minute to understand

or grieve what we've lost, then oftentimes it's very difficult to diagnose why we feel the way

we feel or why certain things are broken, the way they're broken. Because a lot of us were born at a time

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