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Welcome to another five-minute fatherhood.

So what do you do if you find that in your, within your kids, there's one of your kids or more that are just really highly sensitive?

How do you handle the highly sensitive child? Dr. Thomas Boyce,

who is a professor emeritus of pediatrics and psychiatry at the University of California,

San Francisco, wrote an amazing book about the orchid and the dandelion. And I love the way he kind of

took this. I was listening to some of his interviews. He talked about how there are kind of orchid children who are highly sensitive. Orchids, if you don't care for them

a very particular way, they tend to die. Dandelions just spring up everywhere. They're almost

impossible to kill. They're very resilient. And so he used this analogy to try to tease out the

fact that we oftentimes treat these two children

the same and that's not healthy.

So he spent his entire career really researching these kinds of two types of children and

particularly what does it look like to help the highly sensitive child.

And over many years of research, he had a finding that I thought was really

interesting. He said the depressing thing that he discovered was that highly sensitive children

tended to do much worse later in life. And so they were highly sensitive in the home.

They became very damaged and then they really lived out tragic lives oftentimes as compared

to their counterparts, the dandelion children.

He said, with one massive exception, and it's really interesting when he teased this out,

he said there were homes in which orchid children, highly sensitive children, were raised,

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