Ep. 213: How To Stop People-Pleasing In Sobriety

The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

Casey McGuire Davidson: Sober Coach

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8 • 678 Ratings

🗓️ 9 May 2024

⏱️ 73 minutes

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Summary

I describe myself as an ex-red wine girl and a recovering people-pleaser. And if you’re wondering how those two things are connected we’re going to dig into that because as you start to navigate sobriety, boundaries are going to be your very best friend. Have you fallen into a people-pleasing pattern? Maybe you’re an overachiever who takes care of everything and everyone. Maybe you’re the happy, agreeable girl who spends a lot of time “reading the room” to anticipate the emotions of others so you can put them at ease. Maybe you’re uncomfortable with conflict and would rather stuff down negative emotions than share them with the people in your life. Maybe you’re afraid to say no because you want people to like you. Maybe you’re terrified of disapproval so you’re anxious, self-critical and a perfectionist. Maybe you’re so busy meeting others’ expectations that you have trouble identifying your own wants, needs and feelings. Maybe you’re externally motivated, anxiously seeking the validation of your parents, teachers, boss, spouse, children or friends. It even sounds exhausting. And those ingrained patterns of behavior can make you want to drink to check out from overwhelm, resentment, sadness, loneliness, stress, irritation, unhappiness or feeling unappreciated. I asked my good friend Hailey Magee, a certified coach who helps people around the world break the people-pleasing pattern and master the art of self-advocacy and author of the book, Stop People Pleasing and Find Your Power to help me unpack people-pleasing, boundaries and why they matter in sobriety. 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Hello Sunday podcast, the podcast for busy women who are ready to drink less and live more.
0:10.3	I'm Casey McGuire Davidson, ex-red wine girl turned life coach, helping women create lives they love without alcohol.
0:18.5	But it wasn't that long ago that I was anxious, overwhelmed, and drinking a bottle
0:23.1	of wine a night to unwind. I thought that wine was the glue, holding my life together,
0:28.6	helping me cope with my kids, my stressful job, and my busy life. I didn't realize that my love
0:35.1	affair with drinking was making me more anxious and less able to
0:39.2	manage my responsibilities. In this podcast, my goal is to teach you the tried and true secrets
0:45.5	of creating and living a life you don't want to escape from. Each week, I'll bring you tools,
0:52.1	lessons, and conversations to help you drink less and live more.
0:56.7	I'll teach you how to navigate our drinking-obsessed culture without a buzz, how to sit with your emotions when you're lonely or angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed.
1:06.9	How to self-soothe without a drink, and how to turn the decision to stop drinking from your
1:12.6	worst case scenario to the best decision of your life. I am so glad you're here. Now let's get started.
1:21.0	Hey, it's Casey. If you've been thinking about taking a break from drinking, but keep pushing it off, this is your
1:29.4	sign to do something different.
1:31.7	I know what it's like to wake up again thinking, why did I drink last night?
1:36.3	I wasn't even planning to.
1:38.3	Or to tell yourself, I'll take a break next week or after that next big event or maybe next month.
1:45.2	But here's the thing.
1:47.1	Waiting doesn't make it easier.
1:50.1	What does?
1:51.2	A game plan that actually works.
1:54.0	That's why I want you to come join me in my free master class,
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