Hello and welcome to Happier, a podcast where we take happiness from the abstract to the concrete.

This week we'll talk about why you might put a bandaid on it and how to persuade a reluctant spouse to do more work.

I'm Gretchen Reuben, a writer whose studies happiness, good habits, the foretendencies and human nature. I'm in New York City and with me is my citrilles of craft.

And Elizabeth, I was talking about you at lunch because I had lunch with our founding producer Henry Milowski and we were very sad you weren't there with us.

Oh, that's me Elizabeth Kraft, a TV writer and producer living in LA and yeah Gretchen I miss Henry. I know.

Great as all of our producers have been, I do miss Henry because he held our hands through those first shaky months.

Yes, yes, yes.

And before we launch in we got an update from our listener Amanda.

Yes, she says, I wanted to share that I love the gift of the podcast you offered this year. I have four printed out his gifts and of course I gifted your podcast to one of my friends. That's good.

That's terrific. And again, it's if you want to get the gift certificate, I'm going to gift of podcast.com and I'll put a link to that in the show notes.

If you want to give the gift of a podcast, one of your friends.

Yeah, at any time of year, not just any time of year, yes, any.

Yes, even though the holidays are over, I can still give the gift of podcast. Yes.

Also, I believe it was mentioned in an episode last year about doing a Tadah list for the year.

I did that for some work items last year to help put in perspective all of the great things I accomplished.

I've taken that list a step further this year as I was thinking about gifts for this year.

I decided to use this Tadah list as a gift for my boyfriend.

I think he forgets all of the hard work he puts in toward his own soccer coaching and working for a local club team.

I decided to make a Tadah list and put it in a frame so he will be able to see all of the wonderful things he's done in 2018.

I think it is one of the most thoughtful gifts I've given and it's free.

What a nice idea.

I think this is great because I think sometimes people work hard and as she says, they lose track of how much they've accomplished

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